This was hard to answer. My mother made it clear while I was pregnant that she didn't want to get "too attached" to the baby and would never babysit so she certainly wasn't interested in coming over to help. I don't remember if back then, when I was only 23, I would have welcomed it or not. The idea never came up, although I was really suffering from bad post-partum depression. She had just divorced and was busy playing "I-am-a-teenager-again" and had no interest at all in her grandchild. She rarely saw him during her lifetime and did not WANT to see him. At least toward me and mine, she had no maternal instincts. Later she did get close to my sister's twins, however that was after my sister and her ex paid her a good chunk of money to babysit for the girls while they worked. My sister and her ex even had to buy her insurance or she wouldn't babysit. It was a wild situation. She was getting maybe $500 or more in cash per week for watching her grandchildren and she didn't need the money. Maybe she was being smart for herself, you know? Maybe it made sense. Anyway, during that time, she bonded with them. And she did stay with Sissy after the babies were born. Since she was never easy to get along with, I have no idea how that went. I never asked about or was told how smoothly that went.
Now I'm thinking...yuck, it was better she hadn't come to my house, even though I struggled just to feed my son. She would have made things worse.
I have the strangest family...lol.