Hi Copabanana, I am sorry to hear that you trying to help your son with a house did not work. I charge my daughter the same fee she would be paying for a studio apartment in a bad side of town. She gets to live in a beautiful home in a great neighborhod for the same price she would be paying to live in the slums. I think somewhere inside of her head she understands this. All of her payments are going for the purchase of this home. As far as I know she does not do alcohol or drugs, her friends have even confirmed it, I taught my kids that drugs and alcohol is a gateway to evil and I think she understands that clearly. Seeing the house messy or dirty does bother me greatly but since her neighbors are saying things to her she has started to keep up with it much better. About 8 months ago her boyfriend has made positive changes forward and it is helping her. I know he takes that CBC oil to help him relax and my daughter was taking it too, telling me that the THC has been taken out of it. I do not know much about it but it is helping the boyfriend sleep and he is making much better decisions. There were times where my daughter was working for a couple of doctors and their checkes kept bouncing putting my daughter behind on her rent for a couple of months. Since my daughter is a compulsive liar I checked out her story and it was true. There are times when she is genuinely struggeling and times when she is just lazy. I know the difference and when she is lazy I come down on her hard. She realizes that she is really getting a great deal with the house. I went over there a couple of weeks ago and must admit that her bedroom is just beautiful. My girlfriends have completely decorated her home with curtains they do not use anymore and it all went together perfect. My daughter will be 40 in just 3 short years. I am glad I was patient with the house, there was so much up and down and sleepless nights. When I was there a couple of weeks ago, I helped her with a few projects and she seem sincerely grateful. And in a split second all of this can go the wrong way.