***A Reminder***

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by Suz, Jul 12, 2010.

  1. Suz

    Suz (the future) MRS. GERE

    This hasn't been posted for awhile and I can hear everyone's exhaustion as you face the same issues over and over again. It is our PE parents who have always inspired me the most.

    The terminology might be a bit dated but the sentiment never gets old:

    God Chooses Mom for Disabled Child
    By Erma Bombeck
    September 4, 1993

    Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures, and a couple by habit.

    This year, nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children.

    Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen?

    Somehow I visualize God hovering over Earth selecting his instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As he observes, he instructs his angels to take notes in a giant ledger.

    “Armstrong, Beth; son. Patron saint, Matthew.”
    “Forrest, Marjorie; daughter. Patron Saint, Cecelia.”
    “Rudledge, Carrie; twins. Patron saint? Give her Gerard. He’s used to profanity.”

    Finally, he passes a name to an angel and smiles. “Give her a handicapped child.”

    The angel is curious. “Why this one, God? She’s so happy.”

    “Exactly,” smiles God. “Could I give a handicapped child a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel.”

    “But has she patience?” asks the angel.

    “I don’t want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she’ll handle it. I watched her today. She has the feeling of self and independence. She’ll have to teach the child to live in her world and that’s not going to be easy.”

    “But, Lord, I don’t think she even believes in you.”

    God smiles.
    “No matter. I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness.”

    The angel gasps, “Selfishness? Is that a virtue?”

    God nods. “If she can’t separate herself from the child occasionally, she’ll never survive. Yes, there is a woman I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn’t realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a ‘spoken word.’ She will never consider a ‘step’ ordinary. When her child says ‘Mama’ for the first time, she will be present at a miracle and know it! When she describes a tree or a sunset to her blind child, she will see it as few people ever see my creations.”
    “I will permit her to see clearly the things I see---ignorance, cruelty, prejudice---and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side.”

    “And what about her patron saint?” asked the angel, his pen poised in midair.

    God smiles.

    “A mirror will suffice.”

    Now I want each and every one of you to go look in a mirror and acknowledge and celebrate your strength, courage, and resilience. You have very lucky children.

  2. CrazyinVA

    CrazyinVA Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Wow, Suz, I have never seen that before. It's very powerful. Thank you so much for posting it. I've always believed that I was "chosen" to be the parent of these children. Somehow knowing that gives me comfort. I figure if Someone thought I could do it, then I must be able to. That's helped me believe in myself, slowly but surely, over the years.
    Last edited: Jul 13, 2010
  3. Nomad

    Nomad Guest

    good stuff:D
  4. shellyd67

    shellyd67 Active Member

    Beautiful ! I loved it .... thanx for posting
  5. hearts and roses

    hearts and roses Mind Reader

    Aw Suz, I clipped this out of the paper over 20 years ago - even before difficult child! - and it's all yellowed. Thanks for sharing it; I am going to do a copy and paste and reprint it out. It has such special meaning to so many although I'm sure some of us may occasionally be wishing we weren't so 'blessed' - lol!

  6. Mom2oddson

    Mom2oddson Active Member

    I will be making a copy so I can send it to my Mom.

    My little sisters lungs stuck together when she was born. She's turning 40 in two weeks but will always be between 4-7 mentally. My Mom is a true Warrior Mom. I've watched her battle the world and win many battles. And on the ones that she lost, she found ways around it. My sis has an amazing memory... she can meet you once, and ten years later meet you again and know what you were wearing, what you said, and what you ate. (I can't remember yesterday!) So, when the schools wouldn't help my sis learn to read or write, my Mom got my sister a "Speak N Spell". My sis memorized every word in the thing and can read and write enough to get by. And I love that she picks out her own cards. Each card I get my her means so much because it says the things that she isn't quite able to say on her own.

    Thank you for sharing. I know my Mom will love it too!
  7. I <3 Erma... thanks for sharing!!!