Hi all!! Sorry I have been MIA...lots going on around here (as I am sure you all can commisserate with!). Hubs got home a few weeks ago and has, to his credit, jumped in on the "no freedoms" policy for SD2. She had no clothes or toys in her room, but she took her furniture and left her with a laundry hamper and a mattress with sheets & an army blanket. (Brief background on why I got to that point by myself : Hubs was away training for the longest 5 weeks of my life and this was the first time he'd ever been gone for an extended period since his girls moved in with us 2 years ago. Youngest (SD2) has CD and hit a child on the school bus - unprovoked- and then lied to everyone she knows about it for a week before I finally reached the principal and figured it out. She got grounded and we all know how that goes - escalation time! She decided physical defiance was the way to go and the end all was that she got off to school the next morning and fed her guidance counselor some story about how I abuse her. After all the fighting I've done FOR her, that was it. I decided that the more freedom and more "stuff" she has access to the more she can hide the things she steals and manipulate situations so that was that). In recent weeks, her doctor put her on Abilify, which (PLEASE KNOCK ON EVERYTHING WOODEN NEAR YOU!) seems to be working fairly well, but has kicked up some arguments about how much she needs to eat (abilify somehow turns off the "I'm full" switch). Her thought process is still incredibly twisted around, but she hasn't been escalating nearly as much. Anybody have experience with Abilify long-term? Thank you all for being here...and for being so incredible. CD has made me one exhausted, frustrated stepmom. YAYYYY!!!!