My adult son of 25 yrs. old suffers from PTSD and ADDHD. He's been homeless for about 2 yrs. off and on. I continue to give him money regularly and also buy him cigarettes and food. I am in therapy, originally because I was married to an alcoholic for 30 + yrs. but obviously have other problems. I have tried and tried to give advice and find real options for him but he has an excuse for every suggestion I offer. Even getting a job at Subway so he can have food and not have to live in his car all day (that I bought for him and gas up all the time). He says he cannot lower himself to work at such a menial paying job. Really ? OMG. I flip flop back and forth with getting stern and then get so exhausted trying to deal with all his issues and worrying about him sleeping in his car as the colder weather approaches. I'm exhausted. I have another son, 29 yrs. old that is a month behind on his rent and never has money and potentially will be living in his car too. I'm just beside myself. I don't know how to detach from my sons who are sucking the life out of me.