1) The current cm at school has told me at previous IEP meeting that I have to sign the iep if we sit and discuss things and agree or else difficult child's past iep "expires". So, what do I do exactly if I don't want to commit to anything until I've had a chance to take the iep home and review it? Do I say in the meeting that I "think" ABC is ok but I'd like time to review and think about it first? (I can't get an advocate- PEATC has told me there are no advocates in my area who are familiar with difficult child's sort of needs.) 2) I've been trying to get county help due to fincial and difficult child's mental health issues at home. For various reasons that have been posted about in threads on General, the most feasible way is to get the sd (principal/cm) to recommend a "county team" so I can get county funding to pay for assitance or to get difficult child in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). The principal insists that this must go through an IEP meeting and result from IEP team recommendations but that she isn't comfortable recommending it because difficult child is not giving them problems at school. However, difficult child has missed 20 days of school already this year and over half have been due to a continuous worsening of mood cycling. The funding coordinator of our county says the school can recommend the team due to difficult child's absences. The principal says she can't because the absences are due to mental health. Any suggestions? We (parents) are not allowed to ask for the team themselves- it has to be recommended by 1 of 3 agencies and a wall is preventing me from accesss to county mental health approach and I'm trying desparaely to avoid having to go thru courts because difficult child is on a suspended sentence so they might automatically revoke the suspension and skip any effort to use the county team. One of the members of the iep team emailed this morning and said she had to leave by 2:900 tomorrow so could we make the meeting at 12:00 instead of 1:00. The principal apparently inadvertently copied me on another email she meant only for that lady because principal responded to her by saying "it was a blessing in disguise because it would keep the meeting at 1 hr max". Then, principal sent email out to all team members saying we needed to keep the meeting at 1:00 and we should be finished by 2:00. We are supposed to cover typical iep issues as well as difficult child's absences. Obviously, the principal doesn't really want to deal with it. I expect that at most, they will propose putting difficult child on homebound. They tried that before when they put difficult child on a long term suspension and after about a month of try to get homebound lined up- the teacher never showed up but lied and said she did but that I wouldn't let her in house. But, I can't agree to homebound because I can't stay home and supervise difficult child all day- I need to be at work so I can earn money to pay bills. difficult child might need Residential Treatment Center (RTC), even though his behavior at school is not bad this year. Are my reasons above grounds for me not agreeing to homebound placement thru IEP? Any other suggestions?