I arranged to have Katie's birthday dinner on sunday. It's not a big deal, just soft tacos......easy to clean up/easy to make. As much an excuse to get everyone together as anything. I don't usually give adult kids gifts for bdays, but I do try to acknowledge the day this way. Know what I mean?? Now Katie knows this, she's been here plenty long enough. So I tell her that her birthday dinner is on sunday and the menu. That is ALL I say. Period. Evan's birthday is also this month.....and soon. I don't DO grandchildren's bdays anymore in my home. Now Kayla/Alex last summer was an exception. Katie had been promising them a party for 2 yrs and not delivered. She was to provide everything, do everything, and I just provided the location. Well, it certainly did NOT work out that way. We provided the food. Nichole baked the cake. And we provided the presents as well. So next thing I know Katie pms me and asks if Melissa would do a Minion cake for Evan. I just stared at it, thinking oh, she best not be thinking what I think she's thinking. I did a blunt, you need to ask easy child and dropped it. easy child agrees to do the cake. Next thing I know Katie is now acting like this is Evan's party. wtf? Seriously? Now it may be an opportunity for family to give him his gifts, but it most certainly is NOT about him. And yes, I wanted to just scream when easy child said she agreed to do the cake. I know she did to be nice to Evan......but yeah. Yes. Evan will have no cake and no party from his parents. Yes, once again Katie thinks she has manipulated us into having a party for him......the place, the food, the cake, the presents. I know this because she just pmed me that Evan is so excited over the party on sunday. People, we just provided xmas for her kids. I'm serious. The entire deal. They bought ONE video game for the boys to share, that is IT. The rest came from us. There is just NO excuse. She has more funds going into her home than I do, by quite a lot. She has ONE bill, her rent. And yet she is so "poor" she can't fund bdays and xmas.......or just about anything else for her kids. This is getting old. Quick. I haven't replied yet. Because I can only think of smart mouthed responses that range from this has nothing to do with Evan to Look idiot, and it goes right down hill from there. I will remind her this dinner has nothing to do with Evan, trust me. And I will make certain on sunday that no one makes it about Evan, other than serving up his cake so it doesn't go to waste. This just has gotten under my skin and really ticks me off. She didn't bother to ask, just assumed and ran with it telling the kids whatever she wanted to tell them. No, I don't like leaving Evan hanging. But I will not be manipulated, I just plain flat out refuse. It won't happen. Not for any reason. I just will not tolerate it from anyone. So? Am I being petty?