Another fun morning...

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by flutterbee, May 23, 2007.

  1. flutterbee

    flutterbee Guest

    I'm so sick of the daily morning battles. I've tried every angle and it just doesn't matter. difficult child doesn't want to go to school. Ever. She has to finish out the school year. Less than 10 days left. Next year, we're doing something different.
  2. On_Call

    On_Call New Member

    Sorry you're fighting the morning battles. I hate that. It's exhausting.

    We've got about 3 weeks left of the school year here.

    Hang in there - summer is on the way!
  3. Alisonlg

    Alisonlg New Member

    The morning battles are the WORST! With M in and out of the hospital and now not going to school while we wait for him to change schools, I luckily haven't had to have that battle in a while, but I remember waking up already tight, tense, my shoulders in knots, my stomach upset, just physically and emotionally a mess because I didn't know what "kid" I was going to encounter that morning when I walked through my door! It's sooooo emotionally and physically taxing to deal with day in and day out.

    Interestingly enough, and I don't know if they actually have any success rates, but I discovered that the school M is being outplaced to has a "School Refusal Program" where they are contracted to evaluate kids and get to the root of why they are refusing to go to school and then they work around it and improve their attendance. I'm thinking they may have to do that when M finally starts attending their school! LOL

    Sending out some big hugs to you this morning!
  4. Kjs

    Kjs Guest

    I know it is so stressful to do these morning battles. I honestly thought it was only me. The only two days I am home in the morning we are both crying by the time he gets out of the car. I try so hard to be careful, watch what is said, but never fails. 5 minutes before we have to leave all heck breaks loose. I try, I really try to keep it together, but he constantly has to push, push, push until I lose it. I have been getting very angry and say things I shouldn't.

    Then I spend the entire day doing nothing but worrying how he is, and feeling guilty for a pre school fight, and feeling guilty about things that were said..nothing gets done.

    I honestly thought it was only me. I am sorry others have to deal with this too. Really wears on you. But I am so relieved that it is not only me. (difficult child says it is me..I was beginning to believe him)
  5. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat


    Hang in there, baby.

  6. flutterbee

    flutterbee Guest

    She came home from school this afternoon and slammed the door. My heart just sank knowing what kind of evening I was going to have. What a way to start and end the day.

    Honestly, we battle every. single. morning. From the time I wake her up until I drop her at school. Ugh. Ugh. Ugh.

    I got an email from the intervention specialist that she is mailing me a "draft" IEP for our upcoming meeting - the annual IEP meeting. She said she thought and thought and put a new goal in. I just "know" it's going to say something about difficult child getting to school. To be honest, some days difficult child just can't do it and some days I just can't do the battle. Isn't that terrible? She wears me down.

    I've been trying to decide between the internet based charter school that we've done before, half days, or a combination of the 2 schools (the charter school says this can be done). I know the SD is going to fight me on this. I know they are going to throw out the "she needs the social aspect" of school, blah, blah, blah. Which will just help my argument for a combination of the 2 schools or half days.
  7. nlg319

    nlg319 New Member

    I'm sorry...I'll be thinking peaceful thoughts for you...
  8. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Oh Heather,
    I'm so sorry-those morning battles are no fun. Hugs to you.
  9. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    Oh sweetie.

    This can't be easy, especially adding just starting work into this mix.

    Many hugs and prayers. May his will be done.