'Chelle
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My easy child has been harrassed through the year by a boy in her class. She is a big girl, chubby, and his main thing is calling her names (jumbo) and mooing at her. He's had other behaviors, up to exposing his private anatomy to the girls. He's being assessed at the University here (hospital and mental health professionals associated with the hospital). My difficult child was assessed through them and they do a good job.
I do sympathize with the mother and the boy, but as well I don't want to have easy child start to hate school or herself. Being large my whole life, I've stressed to her that she has to like herself and those names have no bearing on the person she is, which in my opinion is wonderful. She's bubbly, giggly, very caring about others, helpful, friends with anyone and doesn't get the mean girls (yeah they start in grade 2 ) who one day are your friend the next not and mean to you, she just loves most aspects of life. (OK she doesn't like going to bed, or picking up after herself but I never said perfect just wonderful LOL) I can tell the names are starting to bother her, and leads to some of the other kids (the mean girls) calling her names too.
Like the teacher said, it will not be an easy fix with this boy, he has zero impulse control almost, he has issues, and I understand that. She did say they may have to look at someone being with him at all unstructured times. But I don't want my easy child to start having issues either.
How much do you think I should let this go? My mom instincts are to get very up in their face over this as it's ongoing, while I sympathize with the other mom and she is getting him assessed. My difficult child was one who was just disruptive (kicking/throwing things, ripping paper, breaking pencils, hiding under his desk sort of stuff) not involving other kids, so I have no experience in the other end where the difficult child behaviors are against other kids, this case my kid
I do sympathize with the mother and the boy, but as well I don't want to have easy child start to hate school or herself. Being large my whole life, I've stressed to her that she has to like herself and those names have no bearing on the person she is, which in my opinion is wonderful. She's bubbly, giggly, very caring about others, helpful, friends with anyone and doesn't get the mean girls (yeah they start in grade 2 ) who one day are your friend the next not and mean to you, she just loves most aspects of life. (OK she doesn't like going to bed, or picking up after herself but I never said perfect just wonderful LOL) I can tell the names are starting to bother her, and leads to some of the other kids (the mean girls) calling her names too.
Like the teacher said, it will not be an easy fix with this boy, he has zero impulse control almost, he has issues, and I understand that. She did say they may have to look at someone being with him at all unstructured times. But I don't want my easy child to start having issues either.
How much do you think I should let this go? My mom instincts are to get very up in their face over this as it's ongoing, while I sympathize with the other mom and she is getting him assessed. My difficult child was one who was just disruptive (kicking/throwing things, ripping paper, breaking pencils, hiding under his desk sort of stuff) not involving other kids, so I have no experience in the other end where the difficult child behaviors are against other kids, this case my kid