My oldest is 21, using daily, mostly pot, but drinks too. Every day, says he has to be high to live. Had threatened suicide many times since middle school. Has never held a job longer than 2 weeks. Tried college and quit. Bounces around with different freinds, never seems to stay with freinds for too long. Lives in basement and has excuses why he can't find a job, most jobs he refuses to apply for. Has a bad temper when confronted. It's causing lots of stress for my wife and i. We have a younger daughter and not sure what to do next. My son quit AA, went to rehab twice and a 10 month juvenile boot camp program. He went back to using at the end of the programs. He is now 21, and I don't know what to do. Just really stressed, I tried alaon, but it's too emotional for me to attend right now. advice, I am worried if something happens to him because I make him leave home I will get blamed by my wife, but I don't want my family living like this, it's horrible watching him like this.