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Hello everyone and I just wanted to say that it has been a blessing finding this page. I am a mother of 4 ages, 13, 10, 3, and 1...the 13 y/o has ADHD and is currently doing well on medication, the 3 y/o was a micropreemie and now has CP and the 1 y/o although very active, seems to be doing well so far, then again...he seems a little special too. However, I'm SERIOUSLY needing help for my 10 y/o..she has been having serious behavior problems now for about 3 years and this year they have started to get really severe. AT first I started trying to get her into activities, but she would not put any effort long term into them or even into getting up and getting ready to go anywhere. Everything is a struggle with her. She has gotten suspended 2x this year already and several detentions and in-school suspensions. I first got a therapist to come to the house periodically to help her, then I recently visited a psychiatrist with her and he stated after listening to everything that she could possibly have ADHD and/or anxiety disorder. He sent me home with a Connor's Rating scale, and a survey for my daughter and her teacher to fill out. I filled out the Connor's scale and attempted to grade it myself...her score equaled "Oppositional" which caused me to start researching oppositional behavior in children on search engines and that's when I first learned of the term Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD). Upon reading the symptoms of ODD it was like a light instantly came on! This describes my daughter almost exactly! And then I found this forum. So we haven't been back to the doctor yet, but I'm thinking that's what he will say. If not, I'm definitely going to ask him about it, but these are my major concerns and problems:
1.) The school is constantly suspending my difficult child I'm getting used to the terminology here, bear with me.) and putting her in detention in which I have to drag my 1 y/o out and my 3 y/o with CP out to pick her up because they don't provide transportation for after school suspension. How do I get the school to stop giving her suspensions?
2.) I'm also afraid that they will eventually expel her and then I won't know what to do.
3.) I'm already struggling to pay the medical bills for my 3 y/o and taking her to outside therapy, so it's hard to even keep up with all the f/o appointments to the Dr's for my 13 y/o and 10 y/o. My 3 y/o receives some assistance from the state for some of her medical bills because of her disability although we have private insurance. Will it be hard to get assistance for their mental "disabilities".
I'm just more so thankful to find this board somewhat early in my journey with this and grateful to find out about ODD and that there's is actually a name that goes to this. I'm still reading as much as possible here. Sorry for the long post.
Any insights, advice or anything would be greatly appreciated.
W2L aka Jen
1.) The school is constantly suspending my difficult child I'm getting used to the terminology here, bear with me.) and putting her in detention in which I have to drag my 1 y/o out and my 3 y/o with CP out to pick her up because they don't provide transportation for after school suspension. How do I get the school to stop giving her suspensions?
2.) I'm also afraid that they will eventually expel her and then I won't know what to do.
3.) I'm already struggling to pay the medical bills for my 3 y/o and taking her to outside therapy, so it's hard to even keep up with all the f/o appointments to the Dr's for my 13 y/o and 10 y/o. My 3 y/o receives some assistance from the state for some of her medical bills because of her disability although we have private insurance. Will it be hard to get assistance for their mental "disabilities".
I'm just more so thankful to find this board somewhat early in my journey with this and grateful to find out about ODD and that there's is actually a name that goes to this. I'm still reading as much as possible here. Sorry for the long post.
Any insights, advice or anything would be greatly appreciated.
W2L aka Jen