SW from psychiatric hospital just called. She said they aren't discharging difficult child today but he'll probably be discharged tomorrow. difficult child cannot go straight to Residential Treatment Center (RTC) because my insurance does not cover any of it, even if deemed necessary for medication stabilization. It would have to go to county team first, which cannot happen prior to discharge, even if we get it recommended, due to scheduling. (It takes a week or so to geet the meeting set up- if it's an emergency meeting and can take months if it's not.) She has spoken with principal and encouraged recommendation for county involvement. She has left message for PO but has not heard from her. I told her it probably would be a few days because she's probably going to inaguaration. I asked if she would put recommendations in writing and she said she would. Then she tells me that she spoke with difficult child's therapist and he recommended extensive in-home services instead of Residential Treatment Center (RTC). That ticks me off royally. First, he's difficult child's therapist, not ours or mine. He doesn't know all that I'm living with here. I discussed things openly with my therapist and she jumped at saying difficult child needed Residential Treatment Center (RTC)- that it was not safe for him to be at home until his medications are stabilized. If difficult child's therapist thinks I'm doing traditional family therapy he's nuts. It would be fine if difficult child is not living in the home but any time this has been tried before, it's worse than a disaster, for several reasons. Basicly, since they all start trying to "identify" family problems, the 45 min appts last just long enough to open up a can of worms then they send us home for a week with the worms flying. They do not know what our household is like when worms are flying. And, it appears to me that getting difficult child stable has to take place before that will change. There are other reasons that it's a disaster but that's one of them. Anyway, I can seee this turning into a big mess now because therapist has a release form signed to communicate with PO. We are supposed to see therapist on Wed and therapist said he wanted it to be a family meeting. I get the feeling that therapist thinks it's a family problem not a medication or BiPolar (BP) or any other kind of problem. This seems to happen a lot when tdocs meet with difficult child about 4 times and hear all his side of the story and don't hear mine, then they expect me to give all my side of the story with difficult child sitting right there. If this turns into a court order for family therapy and noothing else or some other BS that makes more demands on me and offers nothing to really help, I'm throwing the towel in. And the tdocs that difficult child has had before, along with PO and GAL have all said they don't care if I'm able to afford it or what it does to me or anything else- that they are there to say what difficult child needs and make me do it. Well what if I don't have the resources to create a perfect world for difficult child without some help? And what about the message that this sends to difficult child? And the idiot tdocs running family therapy seem to all think they can say things like "ok, difficult child, you won;t go home mad or upset, right?" and expect that difficult child will not get mad or upset or rage for a week. I am so upset that I'm sitting here sahaking. I'm calling difficult child's therapist.