yup another night gone to pot as far as sleep goes. It’s after 1 am and I am fuming and can’t sleep. Son is in jail. Had a family friend visit him on Thursday and he was in the throws of detox. We decided to give it another week before we visit and I get this text this evening that has me upside down. Sons new girlfriend age 16 has been with son for less than a month and officially dating for a week prior to his arrest. A week! Her mother is a police officer. They smoke pot and who knows what else together. When he ran the night he was arrested he was at their house. Mom sent a text early last week. I was polite I thanked her for her concern as misplaced as it was. I explained that she has known my son for a very brief time and that we have ongoing issues. To which she said that she did not know the whole story and that it was none of her business. The tonight I get this on my phone. Hi. I’ve been waiting to text u to figure out the words to say. I don’t want to offend you or upset you. But I took brooke to see E today. He seems ok but he has been beat up. And jail tends to cause depression issues. And ptsd. And drugs are easy to come by and needed to fight depression. I’m don’t think it’s the best place for him. Again I won’t sign him out. Well I can’t. It’s a conflict of interest for me. I’m not sure what outcome will come out of him “doing dead time”. Which is what this time is called. I just don’t think this is solving any problem. You aren’t getting you money back. And he is sitting paying a higher consequence then the court will give him if he gets found guilty. And either way no money back for you. Pleading guilty is the only way out for him and if he does that the drug charges alone will keep him from getting a job or travelling and it’s an adult record that won’t go away. So he will need s lawyer. To which he can’t afford. Duty counsel will plead him guilty and be done with it. I’m sorry I have said too much. I just think he’s a good kid who has made some bad choices recently and if given the chance will make it right. I get. A good vibe from. Him. I’m sorry If I offended you. WTF!!!! First, yup now you have offended me. Second, who takes their 16 year old to see a boyfriend of leas than a month to Super Max 35 min away for a visit! Third, the drugs are needed?! Hell no. Fourth, he has a lawyer. She is a legal aid appointed lawyer and you know what, That’s right i am not paying for a lawyer. Nor am I going to drop the fraud charges or bail my son out. He had breach and possession charges as well as his precious 3 unresolved charges to face as well. Not my Circus!! Fifth; It’s not a conflict of interest for her to bail him out! It is against the law for me to bail him out (not that I would have anyway), as we are the victims of his crimes. So no jail is not the best place for him. I didn’t put him there. He put himself there. And if he wasn’t in such a predicament he wouldn’t need bail. He would be able to be released on his own recognizance! Sixth. Ummm dead time?? I don’t think so. For every day iemand he gets 1 1/2 to 2 days shaved off his sentence. Seventh. How the does she know what his sentence will be....what an absolute ass. Even his lawyer doesn’t know!! The Crown hasn’t made rheir offer of a deal as of yet. His lawyer said all in he is looking at a min of 4 years. Of course that will be reduced during the horse trading. Eighth he has choices. He could ask to go to rehab. It’s better than jail! Nine. We don’t give a about the money. Not even close. Ten. Re getting beat up that is nothing more than manipulating at its best. I know my son. AMD ifnhe was beat up that tears my stomach out, but jail is not a pleasant place. 11 he will need a lawyer?! He has a lawyer. And her last statement, enough. He is a great kid. I love him to the ends of the earth. He didn’t break a widow! He is in Jail because he was making things right and continued to use drugs and STEAL!!! How’s that for making things right. Honestly you think a police officer would have more street smarts than that. Ugh!!! Just Ughhhh. WTF is wrong with people. Now I am a frazzled nerve of self doubt.