there are higher expectations; more age appropriate demands made by school, peers, day treatment, tdocs, etc. As I watch my almost 13 y/o twins attempt to maneuver their way through this maze of expectations, I'm struck by how much effort & thinking it takes for them to complete the simplest request; to maintain in unknown territory. Their very inability to ask for help or live in a peaceful environment is unbelievable. kt has been "assigned" for lack of a better word, daily chores as is expected of a member of the family. I watch her each day struggle to comply. I watch anxiety rise when we are having a quiet day - she creates chaos where there is none. wm does the same in group home. husband & I are continuing to push for a higher level of expectations. It's time to move forward. We no longer accept the poor little orphan excuses. In the meantime, I am protecting my heart from verbal & emotional abuse that is spewed my way on a regular basis. Again, it's time to move forward. I no longer have the "fight" left in me to take on all this stuff. I can't rescue; I can only redirect & guide the tweedles. It's their choice to accept the help & start believing they have a better life. I guess I'm a bit reflective tonight. Forgive my wandering thoughts. Thanks for listening.