I'll try to make this as brief as possible. My DS is 7, I left my husband almost 2 years ago - very verbally abusive, would never take into consideration that our son could hear his shouting. My son's behavior has been very defiant in the past, but it seemed to come and go...every time it comes back though, it's worse than ever. My ex does not help by doing things like shouting at me on the phone while he's got my son with him, calling me a piece of sh*%, eff you, go eff yourself...no matter how hard he denies it, he's still angry that I left him (I was so happy when he found a girlfriend but apparently he's still angry). He enjoys telling me that our son never acts this way for him - my son told me that Daddy told him to be mean to me, so I believe he is encouraging this behavior. Let me also say that he only acts this way for me - this morning I turned off the television because he wouldn't come in the bathroom so I could brush his hair and he just started screaming - no matter how calmly I spoke, it didn't work. He hit, he said the 'f' word (for total shock value, he looked at me to guage my reaction when he did)...kept pulling his hat off when I put it on him three times - he wound up going to school today without brushing his hair OR his teeth. And when he sees his father tonight like he does every Tuesday, he will tell him that I yelled at him, that I'm mean, etc. etc...and his father will take his side against me. I started bringing him to a therapist a couple of months ago and we have an appointment tomorrow night - he hasn't been doing much for him in my opinion, they talk for five minutes and then play board games for forty (which is not necessary because my son loves him and doesn't stop chattering, it's not like he has to draw him out). I told him on the phone last week that I need to have some kind of behavioral therapy for him, and that I want to be in the room and have counseling together to work out his behavior with me. Meanwhile, I can barely function - I can't concentrate at work, I'm upset all the time, I collapse exhausted into bed every night...this is consuming me. Any advice would be most appreciated.