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Bunny
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difficult child spoke to his guidance counselor yesterday about dropping orchestra and, well...let's just say that it didn't go the way difficult child had hoped. I called the GC to tell him something else and he told me that he told difficult child that it's too late in the year to drop it and that I should tell him that the principal won't allow him to drop it now. Basically, he said to put the blame on him, which is I suppose why difficult child didn't have a screaming meltdown about it: this time he could not pin the blame on me (for a change!)
So, his response to being told that he would not be allowed to drop orchestra was, "Well, I don't care what GC says. I am not going and they can't make me. I don't care if they mark me badly." Really he does care, but not enough to make him go back to the orchestera room. He says that another kid just quit orchestra two weeks ago and it's not fair to make him continue when someone else just got to do what he wants to do now.
Orchestra is an elective. He is not required to take it. It is an "extra" class for those students who wish to take it. He goes to the class every other morning before school (zero period) and has a violin lesson once a week during the school day that requires him to miss a class and make up the work. The GC knows about difficult child's problems here at home (at school he's an angel) but thinks that he should have to plow through to the end of the school year. That's a really long way off! husband and I both think that he should be allowed to drop the course, if for no other reason than to ease whatever is troubling his little mind, and so that I don't have to deal with the tantrums when he fails the class because he doesn't go to it.
I asked difficult child if he was having trouble with missing classes and making up the work, but he just yelled at me that he doesn't want to talk about it and to leave him alone. If he won't tell me what the problem is I can't try to help him, so I feel like I'm left standing here looking stupid.
I'm going to call the GC this morning and see what he says, but I'm not really sure what to do. If they make him continue with the class it's going to ruin his average and I know that he really upset about that, but like I said, not upset enough to give in and continue with the class.
Pam
So, his response to being told that he would not be allowed to drop orchestra was, "Well, I don't care what GC says. I am not going and they can't make me. I don't care if they mark me badly." Really he does care, but not enough to make him go back to the orchestera room. He says that another kid just quit orchestra two weeks ago and it's not fair to make him continue when someone else just got to do what he wants to do now.
Orchestra is an elective. He is not required to take it. It is an "extra" class for those students who wish to take it. He goes to the class every other morning before school (zero period) and has a violin lesson once a week during the school day that requires him to miss a class and make up the work. The GC knows about difficult child's problems here at home (at school he's an angel) but thinks that he should have to plow through to the end of the school year. That's a really long way off! husband and I both think that he should be allowed to drop the course, if for no other reason than to ease whatever is troubling his little mind, and so that I don't have to deal with the tantrums when he fails the class because he doesn't go to it.
I asked difficult child if he was having trouble with missing classes and making up the work, but he just yelled at me that he doesn't want to talk about it and to leave him alone. If he won't tell me what the problem is I can't try to help him, so I feel like I'm left standing here looking stupid.
I'm going to call the GC this morning and see what he says, but I'm not really sure what to do. If they make him continue with the class it's going to ruin his average and I know that he really upset about that, but like I said, not upset enough to give in and continue with the class.
Pam