We have a 13 year old son who is diagnosed ADHD, Asperger's, and ODD. He has been to three therapists and three psychiatrists, but still has problems with lying, stealing, following rules, and just generally being considerate of others. He is often thoughtless and rude towards us, and never seems sorry for his actions. My partner has basically given up on him, and has decided he is a sociopath. She is just waiting for him to really hurt someone. He has had episodes of aggression in the past where he has attacked one of us or tried to beat his dog, but these tend to happen after a lot of stress. He does not talk about his feelings, and if he does, it's usually lies. We never know if he is telling the truth or not. He probably functions at a 9/10 year level socially/emotionally, but intellectually, he has a genius IQ and is way too smart for his own good. He has great book smarts, but lacks common sense. We are no longer certain what behaviors he can control and what he can't. My partner has reached the end of her rope and doesn't want to deal with him anymore. She is tired of his disrespect. We have tried every form of discipline we can think of, natural consequences, loss of privilege, grounding, extra chores, etc. He does not learn from his mistakes. He seems to have no motivation to improve his behavior, even when offered rewards. When things are hard for him he just gives up. He is not motivated by offers of money, free time, extra privileges, etc. At this point we have started considering some sort of residential placement or military school for him because we don't know what else to do. Can anyone give us some other ideas?