difficult child has this overwhelming feeling of hopelessness. In his "diary" that I am secretly reading he mentions thoughts of dying or revenge. After a rough day yesterday he ripped up all his drawings, posters, awards and even the diary. He was destroying things that were near and dear to his heart! He was an obvious mess so we intervened and had him sit on the couch and gave him the stage. We told him to tell us anything he wanted to say and we wouldn't interrupt or argue. (an idea that I got from one of you) It was very good for all of us, but he did admit that he thinks he won't be able to get better. He said maybe it would be better if he weren't around anymore. Maybe he would be better off dead. Of course, this deeply saddens us. How do we know when to take these comments seriously? A couple years back when he first went down into this black hole he had suicidal thoughts. He directly told his younger brother that he was going to kill himself. We immediately took him to a psychiatrist and I think (unfortunately) he learned real quick to keep those kinds of thoughts to himself or mom and dad are going to freak! That psychiatrist scared him so much that he actually learned not to speak of the action or how he will do it. So my question is at what point do we take him seriously and worry that he may follow through with these thoughts?