RainyDayTx
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My mom & step-dad adopted my nephew, we will call him Kiddo, at a young age. He has been diagnosed as Asperger and Oppositional Defiant. In elementary school he would have a "melt-down", which in reality was him throwing a fit because he did not get his way, and was given whatever he wanted to get him to calm down. At home he was coddled and told it was ok instead of learning that actions have consequences.
A few years ago, grandpa passed away unexpectedly. Ever since Kiddo has been obsessed with bringing him back from the dead. His behavior has become unbearable. He thinks that his councilors will "get the family back together" by bringing dad back from the dead. Anytime he is in trouble he throws him into mom's face claiming that things wouldn't be like this if he was alive and that he would be able to do what ever he wanted, etc. He even accused her of being the reason he died!
He constantly "fires", trying to kick people out of the house & tries to remove people from the family that he does not like; me in-particular. If you try to explain why his behavior is inappropriate he turns everything around so it is someone else's fault. His aide at school "thinks and says he is perfect and doesn't need to change anything" and everyone else is wrong and should pay. He becomes angry and wants to get his revenge on people he does not like. He will raise his hand as if he is going to punch someone. He tries to parent is sister. Yells, screams, and threatens others. Claims he needs a break anytime he is asked or reminded to do something that he does not want to. Tells others they need anger management and so much more. His diet consist of 3 different carbs, nothing healthy. He refuses to take any pill form medication. Even at the doctors office he has to be pinned down to get his vaccinations or bloodwork; there is literally no other way.
He refuses to help with household chores and will say to make his sister do it because he is busy. Yes I understand that he has problems, but not all of his outbursts are from Aspergers or the OD. Even a children's psychiatric that he seen around 8 told them that the majority of his problem is being spoiled. But they did not want to listen and continued to coddle him. Now she is paying for it.
A few weeks ago, he became mad and began hitting mom & punched a hole in the wall. She refuses to put him into a care facility, but he is a danger to her. He has also started jerking on her arm and hitting while she is driving, almost causing an accident several times.
I do not know what to do any more. I am scared that he is going to finally loose it and will hurt her or someone else. If something happens to her, both he and his sister come into my care. I can't even go over there with out him getting mad and yelling at me to get out of the house and that he doesn't want me there and I am not part of the family. All because I will not put up with the bad behavior. I do not know what to do. Please help.
A few years ago, grandpa passed away unexpectedly. Ever since Kiddo has been obsessed with bringing him back from the dead. His behavior has become unbearable. He thinks that his councilors will "get the family back together" by bringing dad back from the dead. Anytime he is in trouble he throws him into mom's face claiming that things wouldn't be like this if he was alive and that he would be able to do what ever he wanted, etc. He even accused her of being the reason he died!
He constantly "fires", trying to kick people out of the house & tries to remove people from the family that he does not like; me in-particular. If you try to explain why his behavior is inappropriate he turns everything around so it is someone else's fault. His aide at school "thinks and says he is perfect and doesn't need to change anything" and everyone else is wrong and should pay. He becomes angry and wants to get his revenge on people he does not like. He will raise his hand as if he is going to punch someone. He tries to parent is sister. Yells, screams, and threatens others. Claims he needs a break anytime he is asked or reminded to do something that he does not want to. Tells others they need anger management and so much more. His diet consist of 3 different carbs, nothing healthy. He refuses to take any pill form medication. Even at the doctors office he has to be pinned down to get his vaccinations or bloodwork; there is literally no other way.
He refuses to help with household chores and will say to make his sister do it because he is busy. Yes I understand that he has problems, but not all of his outbursts are from Aspergers or the OD. Even a children's psychiatric that he seen around 8 told them that the majority of his problem is being spoiled. But they did not want to listen and continued to coddle him. Now she is paying for it.
A few weeks ago, he became mad and began hitting mom & punched a hole in the wall. She refuses to put him into a care facility, but he is a danger to her. He has also started jerking on her arm and hitting while she is driving, almost causing an accident several times.
I do not know what to do any more. I am scared that he is going to finally loose it and will hurt her or someone else. If something happens to her, both he and his sister come into my care. I can't even go over there with out him getting mad and yelling at me to get out of the house and that he doesn't want me there and I am not part of the family. All because I will not put up with the bad behavior. I do not know what to do. Please help.