I posted a few times here about my (then 17 year old son). He is now 19. Long story short, he has had several juvenile charges, a hospitalization and has gotten violent with my husband, problems with drugs. Problems started when he was about 12. I have another child (daughter 16) who has no behavior or drug issues but does struggle with goals and social activity. He held a job at a restaurant for over a year and was doing ok, still living at home and mostly following rules. Didn't need money from us and had a routine so pretty much all was tolerable. He quit trying to have his friends at our house which was an issue when he was younger. He just lost his job and a lot of the same patterns (yelling, arguing, wanting money, staying out all night) are happening again. I feel like we have regressed. I don't know, I'm just having a bad day. Looked at my neighbor's fb page (she has 3 children that grew up with mine) and one got engaged yesterday, the other is back from his second year at university and the third (former friend of my daughter's) in high school just got inducted into the Honor Society and posts fabulous pics of her and all of her friends at the lake every weekend. On top of that, her and her hubby just returned from a fabulous weekend in another state, just the two of them. Something I will never be able to do and leave my son alone here. I know I am blessed in other ways, but sometimes I just wish my dreams for my children - and my middle age - had come true. Needing a soft place to land and hope to help others in their journey through this as well. It's hard to be alone thru this. I have lost almost all my friends thru this journey, as most of them were mothers of my son's friends before he went thru this and they quit including me.