She talked with the doctors, Copa, she ranted and railroaded until there was no stopping it. She made it appear that if he didn't, then his "death" would be on everyone else hands. It was a sort of insidious adult tantrum. Not screaming and thrashing, but a blatant insistence that this be so.New Leaf, do you understand why your mother and brother and sister capitulated to her in the care decisions for your father?
Most certainly it is this.Is it because she is so persistent and dominant about it, and people fold?
This is true, also.Or does she actually do things to get her way, that may be secretive or underhanded?
This is wrong, I am so sorry this happened.In the case of my sister with my mother, my sister actually acted unilaterally and improperly when she had no legal right to do so, and intervened in a way that was unwarranted, wrong and cruel. To my mother and to me.
My brother has power of attorney. He and sis will not let Attilla be Mom's caretaker.But it was a wake up call to me. And to my mother. It gave us the window to take protective steps.
Mom has assured me, she has everything in order. Attilla has already staked her claim on certain items. I know she has taken things from Mom, and would do it again. It is a horrible feeling Copa, to know that when my Mom goes, it will be a feeding frenzy on Attillas part.I felt compelled to support my mother to arrange her affairs legally to protect herself (and me).
This will be so with Attilla, I fear.My sister will never forgive us. She does not see she did anything wrong. But has never in her whole life felt she did.
I think she is upset with me, that I talk with my little sister a lot now. I see she has tried to turn me against my brother and sister.
So sad and strange to be this way.
Thank you Copa for sharing your story, it helps to shine the light on mine.
Goodnight dear friend. Sweet dreams.