Ok I am new here but have had years of hell behind me with this child. She is supersweet but UGH! Her BiPolar (BP) led her to premature promiscuity which led to a baby at 16. Fine, we helped her but then her mental condition finally hit the floor, was hospitalized a few times, we took baby into temp custody etc. They finally diagnosis her BiPolar (BP)/ADHD(hey I tried to tell people there was a problem!) when granbaby was 2 mos old and my daughter started the rollercoaster of medications. Well, life was not working well, at her last court date for temp custody of aug last year I turned custody of granbaby over to the other granma which included my daughter too. I just could NOT DO IT ANYMORE!
So now to today, my daughter got custody back and still lives with them. She is not stable and he is trash, I got many reasons for saying this! She is now pregnant again(just turned 18 in Nov) and thinks it is so great, and do I want a granson this time?!
Problem, his mom's apt lease ends June 30. She is ****** they are expecting again and says they are out. Well, my daughter and babydaddy have a great plan to move into the local Super * motel shelter and get Section 8, which they think will be very quick.
AAGGGGHHHH! I am not talking to them right now cuz they said they can take care of their business and to butt out, but hey can I take granbaby to go out? I said I would take back custody of granbaby for them while they figured out housing and the pregnancy. Well, no they of course said with a few extra words thrown in. Babydaddy will be 18 in July.
So I have 3 younger children with issues who have watched this older sister do all this. But I feel guilty as hell letting my granbaby go through my daughter's **** and live in a shelter! But then she does have another on the way and as my mom said is she just gonna be a baby factory? Will she keep making them and me take them in? Do I just let her and her children fall together?
I need like pages to vent all this but mostly a sympathetic ear. Friends and family have no idea and say I should just take the granbaby now. I already had DSS here 2x because of her teen counselors who said we neglected or verbally abused her. I am tired from those battles. And don't want to put my 3 younger through it again.
So now to today, my daughter got custody back and still lives with them. She is not stable and he is trash, I got many reasons for saying this! She is now pregnant again(just turned 18 in Nov) and thinks it is so great, and do I want a granson this time?!
Problem, his mom's apt lease ends June 30. She is ****** they are expecting again and says they are out. Well, my daughter and babydaddy have a great plan to move into the local Super * motel shelter and get Section 8, which they think will be very quick.
AAGGGGHHHH! I am not talking to them right now cuz they said they can take care of their business and to butt out, but hey can I take granbaby to go out? I said I would take back custody of granbaby for them while they figured out housing and the pregnancy. Well, no they of course said with a few extra words thrown in. Babydaddy will be 18 in July.
So I have 3 younger children with issues who have watched this older sister do all this. But I feel guilty as hell letting my granbaby go through my daughter's **** and live in a shelter! But then she does have another on the way and as my mom said is she just gonna be a baby factory? Will she keep making them and me take them in? Do I just let her and her children fall together?
I need like pages to vent all this but mostly a sympathetic ear. Friends and family have no idea and say I should just take the granbaby now. I already had DSS here 2x because of her teen counselors who said we neglected or verbally abused her. I am tired from those battles. And don't want to put my 3 younger through it again.