Marcie Mac
Just Plain Ole Tired
There were times I didn't think he would make it to 18, or 19, or 20.... Would he ever finish school, will he ever get a job, will he ever move out (guess two out of three ain't bad given he is still a difficult child) LOL
It was hard adjusting my expectations - there would never be a graduation ceremony, never a prom but I remember I was so over the moon when he went out a got a GED - that for him was a major accomplishment at that time in his life
Jobs..working for others in the 9 to 5 so far has not been in the cards, and I don't think that would ever come to pass. Too hard to overcome his arrest record. He is just too "difficult child'ish" for that to happen. Anyone he has ever worked for, after the first day, knows nothing and he by osmosis knows everything.
Working for a contractor, he learned how to tile effortlessly. Offer by me to send him to school for a contractors license, forget it. Someone gave him a car with a blown engine, he took the whole dang thing apart, put in a new engine, AND changed it from an automatic to a stick - spending months running from the garage to his computer to look up info. Offer by me to send him to automotive school, forget it.
No incentive to do those things for a living - once he has conquored somthing, he is in a been there done that mode, and its all over.
But the computer, thats another story. He has taught himself to build them from scratch, and repair them. People are comming to the house every day with a computer or laptop to either fix and upgrade. He has rearched the web, and has taught himself to do the network stuff. He and his brother, in a first time joint venture, built SO and I each a new computer for Christmas. He has even mentioned going to school to get his certifications. He absolutely loves the challanges
He is finally hitting his stride I think. Still has his drinking problem, still a pot head, and omg, he can stop with the Tatoo's already, still gets tickets for one thing or another. But that is his stuff to deal with now. Doesn't have a car, or a license, or a bank account. If he needs to buy something for his work, he hands over money and asks that I order it for him (such a far cry of just TAKING my credit card or cash out of my wallet without asking). We put him on the cell phone plan, again, SO was dubious, but this time he asks how much he owes and pays it, even will ask if he is ok on minutes.
It looks like Mr. Toad's Wildride is going a lot slower these days. There is a light at the end of the tunnel (albiet still flickering from time to time) for those who are sure they are not going to make it another day with your difficult child.
My mission for today is try and not panic when he goes out to celebrate tonight on this St Paddy's day ROFLMBO
Marcie
It was hard adjusting my expectations - there would never be a graduation ceremony, never a prom but I remember I was so over the moon when he went out a got a GED - that for him was a major accomplishment at that time in his life
Jobs..working for others in the 9 to 5 so far has not been in the cards, and I don't think that would ever come to pass. Too hard to overcome his arrest record. He is just too "difficult child'ish" for that to happen. Anyone he has ever worked for, after the first day, knows nothing and he by osmosis knows everything.
Working for a contractor, he learned how to tile effortlessly. Offer by me to send him to school for a contractors license, forget it. Someone gave him a car with a blown engine, he took the whole dang thing apart, put in a new engine, AND changed it from an automatic to a stick - spending months running from the garage to his computer to look up info. Offer by me to send him to automotive school, forget it.
No incentive to do those things for a living - once he has conquored somthing, he is in a been there done that mode, and its all over.
But the computer, thats another story. He has taught himself to build them from scratch, and repair them. People are comming to the house every day with a computer or laptop to either fix and upgrade. He has rearched the web, and has taught himself to do the network stuff. He and his brother, in a first time joint venture, built SO and I each a new computer for Christmas. He has even mentioned going to school to get his certifications. He absolutely loves the challanges
He is finally hitting his stride I think. Still has his drinking problem, still a pot head, and omg, he can stop with the Tatoo's already, still gets tickets for one thing or another. But that is his stuff to deal with now. Doesn't have a car, or a license, or a bank account. If he needs to buy something for his work, he hands over money and asks that I order it for him (such a far cry of just TAKING my credit card or cash out of my wallet without asking). We put him on the cell phone plan, again, SO was dubious, but this time he asks how much he owes and pays it, even will ask if he is ok on minutes.
It looks like Mr. Toad's Wildride is going a lot slower these days. There is a light at the end of the tunnel (albiet still flickering from time to time) for those who are sure they are not going to make it another day with your difficult child.
My mission for today is try and not panic when he goes out to celebrate tonight on this St Paddy's day ROFLMBO
Marcie