MissRissa74
New Member
Hello all. I'm new here, but nowhere near new to the situation. I'm the proud mother to 2 adorable children. My 6 year old daughter is mostly fantastic. I rarely get any grief from her.
My son, on the other hand, is an utter handful, to say the least. He is now 4 years old and I'm definitely at my wit's end with him. He's never been an easy child to deal with, but lately, things have gotten harder and harder. It's insane, really. His tantrums are out of this world and can sometimes last for hours on end, depending on the severity of the situation. I can usually tell at the beginning of the day how hard it's going to be. Maybe I should tell you a little about "Junebug" instead of just rambling...
It started when he was tiny, in a walker. He would get frustrated when he couldn't get to where he wanted or couldn't get his way and he would bash his head or face into whatever he could. If he was walking around and got angry, he would do the same thing. The child had more bloody noses, busted lips than any child I've ever met. The head-bashing finally slowed when he almost knocked himself out once by slamming his face into the corner of a table. Needless to say, it scared the **** out of me. I thought things were better and contributed his frequent tantrums to "being a boy". There were times he would stand in the corner screaming for extended periods of time. I actually got one of his fits on camera. He does things, says things that just don't hit me right. He doesn't like to eat and it's a chore in itself to make him eat a full meal. He can't sit still and be quiet at the same time. He refuses to follow directions and I'm constantly saying the same things over and over to him. His fits are horrible. At bedtime, he'll lay in bed and cry for hours sometimes. He breaks things on purpose when he gets mad and throws things. We've had our dog since they were both really little and he can't stand him. He's finally to the point where he might pet him once every few months. He's always yelling at him and trying to hit/kick him. He tells me, and anyone else that will listen, that he doesn't know how to be good and that he likes to be bad. He blames everything on everyone else. He often tells me, when he's mad, that I'm going to make him cry. There's been numerous occasions where he's actually put up a fight with me. He recently, within the past 6 months, got mad at his sister and told her that he was going to kill her. I don't think he meant it, but it scared me. He randomly picks up sticks outside and hits whoever is there. We've talked about it many times and he won't stop.
Today probably would've been one long fight had I not allowed him to spend most of his day outside rollerblading. He spent the entire day on the slight slope going into our garage, going down over and over again. He even refused to come in and eat dinner. So, to avoid a fight, I let him stay out until it was almost dark. Then, I made him come in. He said he was hungry and he ate and then got ready for bed. Tonight was the first night in quite a while where he didn't throw a huge tantrum when it was time for bed. Tomorrow is his doctor's appointment. They're wanting to check him out for ADHD and I've also been reading and think that ODD may be an issue. All of the symptoms are there
I'm sorry this ended up being so long. I guess I needed to vent to someone.
My son, on the other hand, is an utter handful, to say the least. He is now 4 years old and I'm definitely at my wit's end with him. He's never been an easy child to deal with, but lately, things have gotten harder and harder. It's insane, really. His tantrums are out of this world and can sometimes last for hours on end, depending on the severity of the situation. I can usually tell at the beginning of the day how hard it's going to be. Maybe I should tell you a little about "Junebug" instead of just rambling...
It started when he was tiny, in a walker. He would get frustrated when he couldn't get to where he wanted or couldn't get his way and he would bash his head or face into whatever he could. If he was walking around and got angry, he would do the same thing. The child had more bloody noses, busted lips than any child I've ever met. The head-bashing finally slowed when he almost knocked himself out once by slamming his face into the corner of a table. Needless to say, it scared the **** out of me. I thought things were better and contributed his frequent tantrums to "being a boy". There were times he would stand in the corner screaming for extended periods of time. I actually got one of his fits on camera. He does things, says things that just don't hit me right. He doesn't like to eat and it's a chore in itself to make him eat a full meal. He can't sit still and be quiet at the same time. He refuses to follow directions and I'm constantly saying the same things over and over to him. His fits are horrible. At bedtime, he'll lay in bed and cry for hours sometimes. He breaks things on purpose when he gets mad and throws things. We've had our dog since they were both really little and he can't stand him. He's finally to the point where he might pet him once every few months. He's always yelling at him and trying to hit/kick him. He tells me, and anyone else that will listen, that he doesn't know how to be good and that he likes to be bad. He blames everything on everyone else. He often tells me, when he's mad, that I'm going to make him cry. There's been numerous occasions where he's actually put up a fight with me. He recently, within the past 6 months, got mad at his sister and told her that he was going to kill her. I don't think he meant it, but it scared me. He randomly picks up sticks outside and hits whoever is there. We've talked about it many times and he won't stop.
Today probably would've been one long fight had I not allowed him to spend most of his day outside rollerblading. He spent the entire day on the slight slope going into our garage, going down over and over again. He even refused to come in and eat dinner. So, to avoid a fight, I let him stay out until it was almost dark. Then, I made him come in. He said he was hungry and he ate and then got ready for bed. Tonight was the first night in quite a while where he didn't throw a huge tantrum when it was time for bed. Tomorrow is his doctor's appointment. They're wanting to check him out for ADHD and I've also been reading and think that ODD may be an issue. All of the symptoms are there
I'm sorry this ended up being so long. I guess I needed to vent to someone.
