Fran
Former desparate mom
I'm pretty sure I'm a tough, no nonsense mom. I'm not adverse to corporal punishment but when I considered it, I realized that hurting any of my children wasn't my goal.
It spoke volumes about me and none of it discipline but relieving my frustration.
My son's have had 3 spanks on their hiney before the age of 5yrs old. I would give them fair warning to correct their behavior then they got the count down. I started at 5. If they didn't "fix it" by 1 they got their 3 spanks. I seldom had to get to 1.
I did this for my own self control more than anything. Having a difficult child made me want to beat something ferousiously at times. It isn't the way I wanted to parent. Once I set boundaries and control I felt better about how I would discipline.
I was the recipient of beatings as well as an observer of sibs getting beatings. It was downright horrible. We walked a straight line but the price was great. It is demoralizing and humiliating.
Don't let anyone kid you about it. It's not the way I want to raise my kids.
The next time someone mentions sparing the rod, look at them as they are crazy. Corporal punishment is no more a guarantee of functioning, healthy children than a magic pill. Being a tough,no nonsense, loving parent has nothing to do with physical pain.
Look at what your child needs and ask yourself what's the goal? Be a smart parent.
It spoke volumes about me and none of it discipline but relieving my frustration.
My son's have had 3 spanks on their hiney before the age of 5yrs old. I would give them fair warning to correct their behavior then they got the count down. I started at 5. If they didn't "fix it" by 1 they got their 3 spanks. I seldom had to get to 1.
I did this for my own self control more than anything. Having a difficult child made me want to beat something ferousiously at times. It isn't the way I wanted to parent. Once I set boundaries and control I felt better about how I would discipline.
I was the recipient of beatings as well as an observer of sibs getting beatings. It was downright horrible. We walked a straight line but the price was great. It is demoralizing and humiliating.
Don't let anyone kid you about it. It's not the way I want to raise my kids.
The next time someone mentions sparing the rod, look at them as they are crazy. Corporal punishment is no more a guarantee of functioning, healthy children than a magic pill. Being a tough,no nonsense, loving parent has nothing to do with physical pain.
Look at what your child needs and ask yourself what's the goal? Be a smart parent.