my daughter is 29 years old and has many issues with borderline personality disorder. Our relationship has always been difficult. Her father and I divorced when she was 7 and she blames me for everything. I did not attend her wedding because her father told her if I was there he would not come. When I did not show up at her wedding she told me she could not believe I did not even make an attempt to go, even though I had no idea where or when it was and she told me she wanted her father there and he would walk out if I had shown up. She blamed me for ruining her wedding and then she did not speak to me for 4 years. She called on me when she had problems and had to go to rehab and also when she suffered a miscarriage. Mom was there by her side. When her baby was born, for 6 months she let me see her several times a week. I seriously thought, perhaps this baby will be the beginning of a healing in our relationship. I have always been so naive when it comes to my daughter. After 6 months of completely bonding with my granddaughter she suddenly she stopped answering when I would text or call to see the baby. No more pictures of her several times a week sent to me by text. She acts as thought its a huge sacrifice letting me be around the baby for just an hour every 4 to 6 weeks. She stopped asking me to babysit. She will not let me babysit when I offer and will have a friend instead or she will even pay a sitter and she lets me know afterwards. I say Why didn't you let me watch her? and she wont answer. She gave me a list of things to have on hand at my house so I could watch the baby when she wanted to go out of town, pack and play crib, high chair walker and she never comes over. I feel she intentionally let me get very attached to her daughter for the first 6 months and planned all along that she would stop letting me see her. It has been heartbreaking. My son tells me I should have known this would happen and advised me not to get involved with her again when she had the baby. I think the part that hurts the most is that I have a daughter who would even consider using an innocent child as a weapon to hurt me. Its so mean and cruel. I want to just walk away now to stop this pain. My husband says I should just accept what little time I get to spend with my granddaughter on her mothers terms but I feel like I am in the desert begging for a drop of water from her and it makes me very sad.