Hoping for some advice. I haven't been here in awhile. Bipolar 37 year old son. Things had been going relatively well until a couple of nights ago. Son had a good job was starting to take some responsibility and i was slowly detaching. Then the girfriend left and boom he trashed his apt she called police and since he was on house arrest he was violated. He called me threatening suicide has done this many times. I did not go. We are not sure of consequences yet. Anyway he has a hearing tomorrow where his ex is trying to terminate his parental rights i am supposed to verify that he sent his son gifts. I am afraid of three things one that they will ask questions about his past to which i will not lie but i am afraid of his reaction. 2. I am not sure he deserves to hold on to his rights exept it is so permanent. 3. If i show up his ex will probably not let me see him either. I know my son would not intentionally hurt his son but don't feel he is responsible enough to watch him alone. That is not my decision though. Seeing him supervised ok. I told him i might not go because i am angry. Even though it is a small thing he has been told it could make a difference. I have prayed but i don't know what to do. Any advice ?