denial is my middle name


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I used to post a long time ago.. at least a year or so since i last popped in here..

I have a difficult child D who is affected with adhd and odd. we play the medications game as well .. she has been on SEVERAL different cocktails and we seem to have the right mix ( for now) . she is in the first grade and is doing quite well.. she struggles with her reading and her math at times but overall a very good student and behavior is great as well..

I also have 2 sons .. one who I could strangle.. he is 9 going on 16 and driving me up a wall but other than that seems to be OK.

my youngest is 4.. just turned four and today was our dreaded checkup with our psychiatrist.. I was dreading this appointment becasue as a mom with a d who has some issues I know that my youngest is not where he should be..

he is bright, fun alert and talks your ear off.. and has a wonderful cuddly personality.. but he shows signs of aspergers. I have read some.. try not to overload myself with too much info at this point until we go to see a specialist.. we have referred to see an Occupational Therapist (OT) for some help in the fine motor department.
socially he ignores most kids, and prefers to ONLY play with trucks, cars, trains, tractors.. anything along those lines.. he will lay on the floor and play for hours.. no puzzles, nothing else..
he doesnt dress himself.. wont cant.. not sure which
he eats the same thing for breakfast every day... no i lie he switches between 2 options.. and if you dont have that option.. be prepared.

it took me 2 years to finally accept my difficult child d diagnosis and i fought medications every step of the way...

am i in the denial boat again?

thank you for listening.. and giving me a sanity break...


Mom? What's a difficult child?
I am on the denial train somewhat also... I am holding off on taking my 2.5 yo in to see the Occupational Therapist (OT)... even though she has seen her and wants to evaluation her and said she definately is showing signs of Sensory Integration Disorder (SID)... Our Therapist is also pushing us...It is just so hard to take that step sometimes. I don't think it will go away, I just don't know why.
Part of me wants her to live a bit "normal" before we start all the therapy etc...

Anyway welcome back and hang in there...


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It sounds like you think he has AS. He sounds like he does. That's not denial. Get him into interventions and help him. AS kids can be brilliant, but they often have to learn differently. They also are helped a lot by social skills classes and life skills (like teaching him how to change his clothes). He may not know how. If he had any speech delays he may have Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified rather than AS. It's a fine distinction and requires the same interventions. One thing the child shouldn't be is not given help. The earlier they get Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) interventions, the better the overall prognosis for adulthood. Denial helps nobody and really hurts the child! My son had interventions starting in infancy and it really shows! But it's not too late.


Mom? What's a difficult child?
Midwestmom is right... we owe it to our children to help them... they really can't live "normal" lives until they are taught how. The earlier the better, we all know better especially if we already have one difficult child.