On the advice of some here, I decided to send difficult child 1 a Christmas card, *if* she would give me her address. I emailed her a couple of days ago and she is not replying. She is in contact with difficult child 2 and told him that she is not giving us her address. I feel bad that so many on here struggle to get their difficult child's out the door, or have to put them out and I have the opposite problem. difficult child 1 left the moment she graduated high school and has never looked back. It hurts she wants nothing to do with us. It gives me more fodder for therapy. Sigh.