difficult child (now age 14 1/2) has recently slammed into the wall in a rage making a big hole and kicked a tall fan breaking it. I am adding up everything so he can pay for it, but since he doesn't have or earn money, it will have to come out of Xmas or B-Day gift money if he receives any. He recently "earned" $7 from neighbor for gardening, but refuses to give it up. He is on the maximum dosage of abilify & tenex. The wall incident was from his not being allowed to play computer game prior to homework. He is grounded from computer for 2 weeks. He is bigger than I am now, and also heavy, & lately doing more damage recently. He calls husband & myself names and is extremely disrespectful and angry about almost everything. It's very hard to live like this, when there is no peace, so often I go out to calm down & clear my mind, go on a walk, to the store, etc. He's also gets dirty and his hygiene is non-existent. When he finally gets in the shower he'll just stand there and needs to be prompted to do anything. I'm just frustrated & lost beyond belief with him, & needed to vent. Thanks for "listening"