for the night. Today was the day difficult child was home due to punching another child at camp yesterday (you probably saw the post).
We had him doing quite a few chores today and he seemed fine with it. Then we had some errands to run after which we had been wanting to stop at the library.
It is not one of difficult child's favorite places to be but he was interested in finding a book about building paper airplanes (we figured by this time it was after 3 and would have been the time he was almost done with camp). We looked on the computer, went to find the book and it wasn't there. I could tell he was very upset and told him that we would go ask the librarian to help us.
He didn't like that idea and swore at me. Our plan right now when he is swearing is to tell him how much it drains us and that he has to do a chored to help make up for it. That got him upset and he hit me with his hat (which didn't hurt but right now that is enough to get him a stop the world).
When I told him that he tried to joke his way out of it saying he was just testing me. I told him there was no testing and it was stop the world. Then he hit me (again not hard) two more times. From the crisis plan we have in place that is enough for crisis respite.
I went up to tell husband and difficult child came (swearing) with me. husband tried to calm him down and tell him we would double check the plan but he couldn't get the words out because difficult child started coming at me, kicking.
husband then told him it meant crisis respite for certain. This really set him off and he kept trying to kick me and I told him if he didn't stop we would be calling the police.
He then sat at the entrance of the library refusing to come with us, then told us he was running away and walked about a quarter of a block before returning. He eventually calmed down and asked not to go but we have to follow through on this.
There ended up being a couple of hour delay before it could be arranged. By this time he was very calm and resigned to the fact he had to go. We will pick him up tomorrow morning as long as he is following the respite provider's rules and he will try camp tomorrow.
It was very hard to send him tonight and I'm feeling guilty wondering if I could have handled it a different way and yet knowing he needed to go.
I just wish there was an easier way-sigh. Thanks for reading this far.
We had him doing quite a few chores today and he seemed fine with it. Then we had some errands to run after which we had been wanting to stop at the library.
It is not one of difficult child's favorite places to be but he was interested in finding a book about building paper airplanes (we figured by this time it was after 3 and would have been the time he was almost done with camp). We looked on the computer, went to find the book and it wasn't there. I could tell he was very upset and told him that we would go ask the librarian to help us.
He didn't like that idea and swore at me. Our plan right now when he is swearing is to tell him how much it drains us and that he has to do a chored to help make up for it. That got him upset and he hit me with his hat (which didn't hurt but right now that is enough to get him a stop the world).
When I told him that he tried to joke his way out of it saying he was just testing me. I told him there was no testing and it was stop the world. Then he hit me (again not hard) two more times. From the crisis plan we have in place that is enough for crisis respite.
I went up to tell husband and difficult child came (swearing) with me. husband tried to calm him down and tell him we would double check the plan but he couldn't get the words out because difficult child started coming at me, kicking.
husband then told him it meant crisis respite for certain. This really set him off and he kept trying to kick me and I told him if he didn't stop we would be calling the police.
He then sat at the entrance of the library refusing to come with us, then told us he was running away and walked about a quarter of a block before returning. He eventually calmed down and asked not to go but we have to follow through on this.
There ended up being a couple of hour delay before it could be arranged. By this time he was very calm and resigned to the fact he had to go. We will pick him up tomorrow morning as long as he is following the respite provider's rules and he will try camp tomorrow.
It was very hard to send him tonight and I'm feeling guilty wondering if I could have handled it a different way and yet knowing he needed to go.
I just wish there was an easier way-sigh. Thanks for reading this far.