dstc_99
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For several days now difficult child has been on the verge of anger all day long. I ignored it since it is that time of the month. No one has said or done anything to make her upset other than probably easy child since they bicker like sisters all the time. Basically the whole household has just been trying to ride it out as long as difficult child doesn’t get ugly with us.
But last night when she picked me up from work she was once again in a bad mood. She cut off a lady in a turn lane almost causing a wreck and then when we got to the driveway she was furious because husband had gone golfing and taken his truck. I guess she had made plans to go to her friend’s house and I needed my car to go to the gym and the grocery. She was going to take husband’s truck and go to her friends but hadn’t asked for it so he didn’t know.
Once I got back from the grocery I went in and mentioned to husband that I needed some gas because I was out again. husband apparently told difficult child if she wanted the car tonight to put $5 in it so she could get back and forth. difficult child was NOT happy!!! She came downstairs and threw a fit because” she does so much for us” and “we don’t say thank you” and then “we are taking all her money to fill up a car that we drive.” husband and I tried to talk to her but she grabbed my keys and tore out of the driveway. She said some pretty hurtful personal things to me before going. She came back 10 minutes later grabbed some stuff and then tore out again.
I was not happy because she is driving my car and I don’t appreciate her leaving in it without asking. Plus I don’t appreciate her driving while so angry.
About an hour later I get a text saying “Sorry for the last comment I made, I didn’t mean it. I really wish you both realized I am trying and struggling with money. I sell all my stuff and don’t as you all to pay for any of the extra stuff I do because I already feel bad enough. I wish you both would let me know before a month after I’m here that you’re gonna make me pay for gas and other things. I do a lot for everyone and thought that this wasn’t a problem. Hope your feelings aren’t too hurt. I love you.”
I texted back “we can talk about it tonight if you get home in time or tomorrow if not.”
The reply was: “Yea I don’t think that’s really needed. I don’t feel like I should feel bad about not being able to have a job yet and I don’t feel like I should be told I have to pay for gas in a car that I don’t only use. Be mad all you want but making me dirt poor and keeping me away from my only friend wont end well just because your feelings are hurt. Glad we are back to fighting again. Wish you would give me a dang break and let me be happy. BYE.”
My reply: “OK”
Let’s just say I am NOT happy. I don’t appreciate her taking my car without permission and driving while angry. I don’t appreciate being blamed for her lack of friends. I don’t appreciate being blamed for her lack of money since she doesn’t work. I don’t appreciate being blamed for her selling stuff when she hasn’t asked me for any money or help.
Tonight we will be having a talk. She will need to have a job by the end of the month. She will either need to be enrolled in school or looking for an apartment by the end of the month. She will not continue to live in my house, eating my food, using things I buy, and complaining about anything we ask her to do for us. I will no longer be asking her for assistance with anything and husband & I will no longer be assisting her with household chores related to her room or bath. She will no longer be using my car unless she lets me know in advance. If she can’t comply with these things then she will be given an airplane ticket to my parent’s house or my brother’s house.
I refuse to go back to the way things were a year ago.
But last night when she picked me up from work she was once again in a bad mood. She cut off a lady in a turn lane almost causing a wreck and then when we got to the driveway she was furious because husband had gone golfing and taken his truck. I guess she had made plans to go to her friend’s house and I needed my car to go to the gym and the grocery. She was going to take husband’s truck and go to her friends but hadn’t asked for it so he didn’t know.
Once I got back from the grocery I went in and mentioned to husband that I needed some gas because I was out again. husband apparently told difficult child if she wanted the car tonight to put $5 in it so she could get back and forth. difficult child was NOT happy!!! She came downstairs and threw a fit because” she does so much for us” and “we don’t say thank you” and then “we are taking all her money to fill up a car that we drive.” husband and I tried to talk to her but she grabbed my keys and tore out of the driveway. She said some pretty hurtful personal things to me before going. She came back 10 minutes later grabbed some stuff and then tore out again.
I was not happy because she is driving my car and I don’t appreciate her leaving in it without asking. Plus I don’t appreciate her driving while so angry.
About an hour later I get a text saying “Sorry for the last comment I made, I didn’t mean it. I really wish you both realized I am trying and struggling with money. I sell all my stuff and don’t as you all to pay for any of the extra stuff I do because I already feel bad enough. I wish you both would let me know before a month after I’m here that you’re gonna make me pay for gas and other things. I do a lot for everyone and thought that this wasn’t a problem. Hope your feelings aren’t too hurt. I love you.”
I texted back “we can talk about it tonight if you get home in time or tomorrow if not.”
The reply was: “Yea I don’t think that’s really needed. I don’t feel like I should feel bad about not being able to have a job yet and I don’t feel like I should be told I have to pay for gas in a car that I don’t only use. Be mad all you want but making me dirt poor and keeping me away from my only friend wont end well just because your feelings are hurt. Glad we are back to fighting again. Wish you would give me a dang break and let me be happy. BYE.”
My reply: “OK”
Let’s just say I am NOT happy. I don’t appreciate her taking my car without permission and driving while angry. I don’t appreciate being blamed for her lack of friends. I don’t appreciate being blamed for her lack of money since she doesn’t work. I don’t appreciate being blamed for her selling stuff when she hasn’t asked me for any money or help.
Tonight we will be having a talk. She will need to have a job by the end of the month. She will either need to be enrolled in school or looking for an apartment by the end of the month. She will not continue to live in my house, eating my food, using things I buy, and complaining about anything we ask her to do for us. I will no longer be asking her for assistance with anything and husband & I will no longer be assisting her with household chores related to her room or bath. She will no longer be using my car unless she lets me know in advance. If she can’t comply with these things then she will be given an airplane ticket to my parent’s house or my brother’s house.
I refuse to go back to the way things were a year ago.