Hi- I haven't posted in a few weeks but my difficult child today woke up and refused to get dresased and has refused to go to school. He is locked in his bedroom and weeks ago he threw away the gadget that opens the locks. I have decided to stay calm and ignore him even though I am furious. I know that to fight with him would get me nowhere. My husband is in N.Y. and I just hung up on him. The first thing he does is want to blame it on his sleep schedule, which, of course, leads back to me. It is not the sleep it is the defiance. I was going to ask the next door neighbor to help me physically get him in the car but my husband doesn't "want them involved in our lives". Well, I'm just one person. I do not want him home from school-this is a bad precedent to set. I have called the school and alerted them that when I finally get him there, he is most likely not going to be happy and will need to see the psychologist. Any ESH would be appreciated. Right now, I am going to make myself a cup of tea. Thanks.