As you know....husband has been away for a while and isn't able to just kick difficult child out. So, difficult child comes and goes as he pleases, usually while we are at work. He spends his evening getting drunk/high with his friends. I figure now that husband is home, he'll get tired of this and put his foot down. So, I've learned to detach from the feelings of being used by a child that only shows up while I'm at work. From the frustrations of having said kid use my TV, couch, food, shower (using 2-3 towels each time) etc... At the start of school last year when difficult child-A went back to high school, husband & I put him on our phone plan with the understanding that as long as difficult child-A was doing the right things, we'd pay. Then, of course, difficult child-A doesn't do the right thing, but husband insists on keeping the phone so that he can talk to difficult child-A. Well, husband got home Wednesday, difficult child-A showed up at the house for about 30 minutes and we haven't heard/seen him since. husband has left multiple messages with no response. So on Tuesday, I look at the cell usage to see if difficult child-A lost his phone again. Well, in the five days of the new billing period, difficult child-A made 356 text messages and 89 calls (30% of them were checking his messages). So I sent the following text message: "I'm getting tired of watching you jerk your Dad around. Start returning his calls when he calls you or I'll turn your phone off. The reason we pay for your phone is so your Dad can TALK TO YOU not so you can talk to your friends! Got it??" At midnight I get this text message that woke me up "I wasn't ingoring him I lost my phone at S's house and have been working for EG and papa, I just finished the floor". Okay, so now we will see if he starts calling his Dad back. No big deal...including the waking me up at midnight. So, yesterday, I go to the doctor's for a sinus infections. My pulse was 80 and blood pressure was 130/84. I was complaining to the doctor that that is high for me but he said it was fine. So, I get a prescription and get to wait forever at the pharmacy. Well, while I'm waiting I get this text from difficult child-A " Next time please talk to me like a respectful adult". I felt my blood pressure go up, so I checked it at that nice little machine at the pharmacy. Pulse rate 122, blood pressure 189/113! Guess my heart and veins must be good since I didn't have a heart-attack right then and there. I'm just glad there isn't an alarm on the blood pressure machine! Has anyone else had this experience?