My difficult child is in jail now, and he will probably stay there for 120 days. We posted his bond last week on the condition that difficult child would go to rehab. As soon as he got out of jail he refused to go to rehab, and he always told us that he would go "the next day". I actually drove him to rehab last Wednesday and left him there, and difficult child walked out of rehab and found a ride back home. It was not a pleasant surprise for h and i when difficult child walked in the door! Because our son was not going to rehab and he would not go to school either we told him that he could not stay at our house. Last week-end our difficult child was totally out of control, and he ended up staying at a motel close to our house. He was hanging around totally new druggie friends, and he was getting high every day. My h and I were ready to revoke his bail so that our difficult child would be sent back to jail. Then on Tuesday afternoon I received a call from a detective at our local police department. He asked me if I was the owner of wooden chest filled with silver flatware. I didn't even know it, but my son had stolen a set of sterling silver flatware, and the police had found this set in a pawn shop. I never use this set, and it was stored in a closet where my difficult child had no trouble taking it out of our house. difficult child was using the money that he received at the pawn shop to stay at the motel and to buy his drugs. The cops picked up difficult child on Tuesday afternoon and charged him with another count of felony theft. Because he committed another crime when he was out on bond the judge revoked the original bond for difficult child and he was sent back to the Cook County Jail. We hired a lawyer for difficult child, and he was able to get our son admitted to the residential drug unit of the jail. This is a drug program with counseling, and it is a minimum of 120 days. So our son refused to go to a private rehab program all last week, and now he will spend the next 120 days in a jail program. We have not talked to difficult child since Tuesday night, when he got upset because he thought we would be able to bail him out again. He really thought that mom and dad would always be there to rescue him, and now he is in big trouble. He has not called us from jail yet, and I'm sure that he is really upset with us. My h and I still find it hard to believe that our only son has made such a disaster of his life in just a few months. He admitted that he has been doing acid along with using weed and taking triple C pills. I have to keep telling myself that the drugs have changed his brain, and he was not in control of his actions while he was addicted to these drugs. It is so sad for us to realize that he was so close to graduating from high school, and now he is in jail. But I know that difficult child has to take responsibility for what he did, and now he will have 120 days to stay away from drugs. My h and been wonderful through all of this, and he has helped to keep me from falling apart though all this sadness. I went to my first Families Anonymous meeting last night, and I felt much better at the end of the meeting. When I mentioned that my son was in Cook County jail about 6 other parents told me that their kids had spent time in the same jail. It is good to know that there are people online on this board who really understand how I feel, and now I have met a group of parents with addicted kids who all live close to me. Thank goodness for this support! It will be a long 120 days for our difficult child as well as my h and I.