Nomad
Well-Known Member
Weird dilemma.
My very good friend, I'll call her Sue, confided in me that her husband's cousin (male) lost his extremely, big time, high paying, good job, with an international well known Company because of horrible misconduct and he is lucky charges weren't brought against him. She told me some of what happened and that the incident spun the family into great financial difficulty, they are now barely getting by and are in extreme stress. I've met these people a few times over the years. The story is VERY sad and VERY shocking. They formerly were "well to do," and now are hurting. Many VERY bad (difficult child) choices were made.
Fast forward....
I have various health problems. I call up one of the Society's that deals with one of my health problems. Let's say it's migraines. The woman over the phone says "I see you live in the city of X". We have a very active volunteer in that city and puts me in touch with this woman. I'll call her Betty. I speak with Betty on the phone and we have a lot in common.
I meet Betty for coffee. She shares with me, almost in a whisper that her husband works for international company XYZ (the same one my friend's relative was fired from) and that he was recently transferred to city X.
I do an internet search and discover that Betty's husband was called in to replace the fired relative of my good friend Sue. (Well, really Sue's husband's relative)
Question: Do I tell my good friend Sue that I have met this woman and might see her in the future or keep my mouth shut? I say keep my mouth shut. It is very unlikely my friend would ever meet this woman with me and I wasn't really suppose to know this info. in the first place. However, should my friend ever find out, I do believe it would bother her. Sue even knows I had coffee with a person connected with this illness, but doesn't know anything further than that.
Well...hope this makes sense. Should I tell Sue about this new friend and the weird connection? Again, I'm leaning toward no.
PS / Warning. I might ask for this post to be removed at some point in the future due to sensitive nature of the subject.
My very good friend, I'll call her Sue, confided in me that her husband's cousin (male) lost his extremely, big time, high paying, good job, with an international well known Company because of horrible misconduct and he is lucky charges weren't brought against him. She told me some of what happened and that the incident spun the family into great financial difficulty, they are now barely getting by and are in extreme stress. I've met these people a few times over the years. The story is VERY sad and VERY shocking. They formerly were "well to do," and now are hurting. Many VERY bad (difficult child) choices were made.
Fast forward....
I have various health problems. I call up one of the Society's that deals with one of my health problems. Let's say it's migraines. The woman over the phone says "I see you live in the city of X". We have a very active volunteer in that city and puts me in touch with this woman. I'll call her Betty. I speak with Betty on the phone and we have a lot in common.
I meet Betty for coffee. She shares with me, almost in a whisper that her husband works for international company XYZ (the same one my friend's relative was fired from) and that he was recently transferred to city X.
I do an internet search and discover that Betty's husband was called in to replace the fired relative of my good friend Sue. (Well, really Sue's husband's relative)
Question: Do I tell my good friend Sue that I have met this woman and might see her in the future or keep my mouth shut? I say keep my mouth shut. It is very unlikely my friend would ever meet this woman with me and I wasn't really suppose to know this info. in the first place. However, should my friend ever find out, I do believe it would bother her. Sue even knows I had coffee with a person connected with this illness, but doesn't know anything further than that.
Well...hope this makes sense. Should I tell Sue about this new friend and the weird connection? Again, I'm leaning toward no.
PS / Warning. I might ask for this post to be removed at some point in the future due to sensitive nature of the subject.