It's so ironic that just a few short weeks ago I was desperate for difficult child to stop calling me nonstop! When he was in his program he was calling and harassing me constantly because he hated it there. Since he left the program, spent 2 weeks in jail and is now staying with a "friend", I have only heard from him on Monday and Tuesday of this week (through Facebook - NOT a phone call) and then nothing since. So, here's what I proposed to him in a private FB message this morning. Hi "J", I didn't hear from you at all yesterday and that makes me worried. I hope you're ok. Here's what I'm thinking - Until you are able to save up for the phone of your dreams I will buy you a basic prepaid phone and a phone card so we can stay in touch. That way I won't worry as much and you can keep in touch with me easier. We do love you "J" and want to help where we can. This does not change the fact that we can not allow you to live with us at this point. The only way we could ever consider that is if you get on the proper medication for the bipolar and get some counseling and show some serious stability for a certain amount of time. However, that being said, we are your family and we LOVE you and want the very best for you in life. Please remember that especially in your darkest moments. If you want me to send you the phone please let me know and I will. I really do hope to hear from you today "J". I love you. Love, Mom So does that seem reasonable? Getting him a basic phone and phone card so he can keep in touch or call someone if he needs help? I'm not rewarding him in any way for this whole thing but I think the $30 for the basic phone and phone card is worth a little sanity on my end. At least I would know he can get in touch if he needs to.