Thank you for your reply! He has been in therapy and has been going to a psychiatrist the whole time we’ve had him. He’s on Intuniv and Stratera for his ADHD and anxiety. He also has regular visits with his brothers. And yes there were instances of substance abuse in his mothers life.
He does have an IEP and we’ve even switched him to online school because he seems to focus more if he’s on a device (i.e. laptop for school). But when he was in person he was exhibiting the same behaviors. Throwing a tantrum over the smallest of things, hating the word ‘no’, making everyone else suffer because he didn’t get his way.
He really likes soccer, so for his birthday he got cleats, 2 balls, and a goal. And the other kids try to play with him. But when he doesn’t get his way, it’s bad news for everyone.
We have tried literally everything you’ve mentioned. We tried alone time with him and it only makes behaviors worse afterwards. We’ve tried positive reinforcement. But once again, it gets worse afterwards. We’ve tried rewards, taking rewards away, time out, talks, but he won’t stop.
Last night before I made this post he was doing fine. But his sister was getting in trouble and his “name” was mentioned. His name was never mentioned. But because he can’t be wrong it was 3 hours worth of screaming, crying, and completely ignoring what he was told to do. Keeping the whole house up for hours when they all had school in the morning.
I really just need a break and so does the rest of the house. I can’t even be in his vicinity without my heart racing and my body sweating. But we don’t know what to do.