I finally did it. I kicked my 20yr old ADHD son out of the house. So why do I feel worse despite reading the multitude of responses I received ( I posted on the verge of a nervous breakdown)? Although this decision was excruciating, I'm not convinced he's 'better off' as he's chosen to live with his dad whom I haven't spoken to in over 12 yrs. But the one thing I don't understand is this: why is it that what he says, and what he does are polar opposites? Can someone explain this to me? I hear him saying how much he wants to succeed in life, and be someone, but he continuously makes poor choices. He's on his medications, which are suppose to help him make good choices, but it's been one disappointment after another. He feels bad that he makes these poor choices, and I hear him saying that he really wants the family to be proud of him. My fear is that he's so depressed that someday, he may do something to harm himself. I suggested he get counselling, but his father, who is a big influence in his life right now, doesn't believe in counselling and has openly said that it's quackery. And because he has taken every opportunity to put me down, my son doesn't believe the advice I'm giving him when I say to go see a doctor. What should I do? I'm finding it hard to believe that there's nothing I can do at this point.