dstc_99
Well-Known Member
I am officially done and over it.
This weekend we went camping with a bunch of friends. difficult child pretty much ignored me the whole weekend and hung out with my friend. Personally I didn't care. One night we got into a conversation about why kids dont need cell phones with all the bells and whistles. Basically we were all against the idea and I mentioned that difficult child sending a naked picture of herself was an example of why kids don't always make the best decisions with technology. It was a one line type of comment and no further discussion was made about it.
PS: The trip was horrible. We had so many camping issues that it wasn't even funny.
So yesterday life with difficult child is fine. This morning I get blasted.
Here is the text convo:
difficult child: Why did you leave without getting me up before? You know dad told me I had to go look for jobs today.
difficult child: And we need to talk about the comment you made Friday night in front of X and Y concerning my middle school mistake (sent naked picture to boyfriend), I believe that was beyond inappropriate. You embarassed me, and thats not something that should EVER be brought up in front of others. I beyond believe I deserved an apology instead you acted like it was fine and it wasnt.
ME: I didn't know you needed the car. Please talk to your father if you need a car from now on. As for the comment I made I dont feel I said anything wrong.
difficult child: Why am I not allowed to use your car anymore? If you seriously think putting my personal business out in front of people like that is fine you are beyond wrong. That was fully inappropriate and you need to apologize. I don't just tell everyone your dirty secrets and everything you did wrong whenever something they say related. That hurt me. that was embarrassing you made me want to cry. If you think it is okay then you might as well just send me back to KY because we will never be okay and I won't forgive you. You don't just get to get away with comments like thatmom.
ME: I dont think anything I say or do will ever be enough of a repentance for you. I apologize for saying what I said. I am at work please dont contact me again until 5pm unless it is an emergency.
difficult child: No problem, dad doesn't care if I stay here anymore either so once again its time for me to leave. Thanks mom, I wont ever forgive you for turning everything against me again. Im not the problem here. I've done almost everything you ask. I dont understand your problem with me BYE.
ME: Im sorry to hear that. Your dad and I love you and want the best for you wherever and however you chose it to be.
difficult child: No you don't you never have. You turn everyone against me and would make them believe anything you said. I didn't do anything to you for you to be mad you cause problems that hurt me emotionally for no reason. You hate me and I get it, you dont want me around fine. I'll leave and go back to the thown I hate while you guys go on vacation and enjoy life without me around. Hope everything you did is worth never seeing me again.
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Seriously no one gave a crap about something she did 6 or 7 years ago. No one said a word about it after that. She just needs another way to manipulate the situation. It's to the point that I am not allowed to talk to anyone about her blow ups, including my own husband, because she thinks I am turning things against her.
Because of this child I have no relationship with my mother and father, I rarely speak to my brother, and I am upset with my husband for playing along with her games. I am also somewhat afraid to connect with easy child for fear that she will use things against me later or leave me and rip my heart out as well. difficult child even threatens me when she thinks I am talking to my friends.
I have no safe line of support except for here and I have to hide this from the world. difficult child has isolated me to the point it is painful. I have no one to talk things through with and I can't even rely on my family members for support.
At this point I have told my father and husband I will not be handling anything with difficult child anymore. They should make the decisions and leave me out of it. I don't even want to discuss it because I will be held accountable for the decision if I know about it.
I AM DONE!!!!
This weekend we went camping with a bunch of friends. difficult child pretty much ignored me the whole weekend and hung out with my friend. Personally I didn't care. One night we got into a conversation about why kids dont need cell phones with all the bells and whistles. Basically we were all against the idea and I mentioned that difficult child sending a naked picture of herself was an example of why kids don't always make the best decisions with technology. It was a one line type of comment and no further discussion was made about it.
PS: The trip was horrible. We had so many camping issues that it wasn't even funny.
So yesterday life with difficult child is fine. This morning I get blasted.
Here is the text convo:
difficult child: Why did you leave without getting me up before? You know dad told me I had to go look for jobs today.
difficult child: And we need to talk about the comment you made Friday night in front of X and Y concerning my middle school mistake (sent naked picture to boyfriend), I believe that was beyond inappropriate. You embarassed me, and thats not something that should EVER be brought up in front of others. I beyond believe I deserved an apology instead you acted like it was fine and it wasnt.
ME: I didn't know you needed the car. Please talk to your father if you need a car from now on. As for the comment I made I dont feel I said anything wrong.
difficult child: Why am I not allowed to use your car anymore? If you seriously think putting my personal business out in front of people like that is fine you are beyond wrong. That was fully inappropriate and you need to apologize. I don't just tell everyone your dirty secrets and everything you did wrong whenever something they say related. That hurt me. that was embarrassing you made me want to cry. If you think it is okay then you might as well just send me back to KY because we will never be okay and I won't forgive you. You don't just get to get away with comments like thatmom.
ME: I dont think anything I say or do will ever be enough of a repentance for you. I apologize for saying what I said. I am at work please dont contact me again until 5pm unless it is an emergency.
difficult child: No problem, dad doesn't care if I stay here anymore either so once again its time for me to leave. Thanks mom, I wont ever forgive you for turning everything against me again. Im not the problem here. I've done almost everything you ask. I dont understand your problem with me BYE.
ME: Im sorry to hear that. Your dad and I love you and want the best for you wherever and however you chose it to be.
difficult child: No you don't you never have. You turn everyone against me and would make them believe anything you said. I didn't do anything to you for you to be mad you cause problems that hurt me emotionally for no reason. You hate me and I get it, you dont want me around fine. I'll leave and go back to the thown I hate while you guys go on vacation and enjoy life without me around. Hope everything you did is worth never seeing me again.
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Seriously no one gave a crap about something she did 6 or 7 years ago. No one said a word about it after that. She just needs another way to manipulate the situation. It's to the point that I am not allowed to talk to anyone about her blow ups, including my own husband, because she thinks I am turning things against her.
Because of this child I have no relationship with my mother and father, I rarely speak to my brother, and I am upset with my husband for playing along with her games. I am also somewhat afraid to connect with easy child for fear that she will use things against me later or leave me and rip my heart out as well. difficult child even threatens me when she thinks I am talking to my friends.
I have no safe line of support except for here and I have to hide this from the world. difficult child has isolated me to the point it is painful. I have no one to talk things through with and I can't even rely on my family members for support.
At this point I have told my father and husband I will not be handling anything with difficult child anymore. They should make the decisions and leave me out of it. I don't even want to discuss it because I will be held accountable for the decision if I know about it.
I AM DONE!!!!