I got a call at 1:00 last night....foster dad said that our son was sleeping at the neighbors because the police had to be called. Okay WHOT? I was sick as a dog - DF took the call. Said they didn't really know what was going on - but their neighbor had called the cops on THEM (foster parents) because ....and didn't know why. (Abuse) THe neighbor called us not too long after we hung up from the fosters and she said that yes, she called the cops because the stuff they were doing to Dude was absurd and someone needed to be called. Then Dude got on the phone with me - he was crying and barking and moaning and telling me he was so scared....he was going to flip....he was so scared. I dunno - I thought maybe he hurt someone - and was hiding - Details at this point are sketchy and the foster Dad for SURE is not telling all the story - but what I gather is that Dude was swearing in front of the Mom - and the daughter (25/289 lbs) choked him and threw him to the floor twice - then started to do it again - and DUde said he would punch her - she said "Go ahead - I'm a girl -a nd you're 18"...... Then the son - upon finding out that the neighbor was cursing at his Mother in the road proceeded to kick, punch the windows, and hit and punch Dudes car. WTH/ But of course no one tells us this - So I called them on it - told them at this point the only ones that could be arrested are HIS kids - and that my kid called me at 1:00 AM afraid to go home because of his kids threatening to kill him. That he better watch his back - that he'd be getting his. FOster dad called the caseworker - caseworker said DUde is out if he doesn't go back tot he house. Wondering if the caseworker got the call....or if he got the abridged version where his 23, 25 and 28 year old kids do nothing to my 18 year old? They said this was all over cursing......ARE YOU KIDDING ME? YOU are a THERAPEUTIC Foster home - and your kids have lived and grown up with foster kids - and THIS is how they solve conflict? By beating on my kid? I can't find Dude - We made the foster dad PROMISE to tell DUde's boss where he was for work - Boss just came in the office, asked where my kid was = I told him a little of what was going on - and he said - the foster dad opened the door this morning - said he had no idea where dude was and slammed the door in his face. THe man went home - the foster dad remembered he promised to call - and he said he thought DUde MAY be next door - gave the number and said that she is crazy neighbor, bi polar and a liar. EMphasis on crazy bipolar woman. She didn't sound too crazy to me when she called me after callign the police for what she heard and saw happen to DUde..... I'm just sick......caseworker said they are going to drop dude..... DF said "OH REALLY - let's see how THAT goes with an investigation into abuse by two adult children living in the home choking this kid, tearing up his clothes and drawing on them....and punching and kicking his car. Any suggestions at this point would be appreciated..... I cant find Dude, but I told the foster dad that his kids probably set my sons progress back 10 years after they ALLOWED him to be choked and have his stuff destroyed - because of cursing - not AT anyone ....just cursing. Then he added that cursing does make his kids crazy and that he would smack them in the mouth if they cursed when they were little... I dont' know whether to see if DUde wants to let this blow over - or if the caseeworkers need to find him immediate temp. shelter.....or what. Part of me wants to jump in and have these kids brought up on charges - the other half thinks this is life in the ghetto. Just sad - no one should ever hurt your kid. FInally the Foster dad said he was ashamed of his kids behavior. I said nothing. THis is nuts.