So M calls his dad to panic that M has been ignoring his school assignments and thinks he is flunking two classes. "Woe is me." Plus, he hasn't been going to the on campus therapist because he can't afford the co-pay (we told him we would pay it), and he's never been to see the MD for medications. He was worried that he would lose his student aid, which is what he is living off of right now. husband talked him down, and got him to contact the school financial aid office, and his prof's. He can make up the assignments in the one class, and so long as he maintains a certain GPA, which he will if he can get back on track with one of the classes. He is able to make up the assignments in one, so he should be ok if he does what he needs to do. This is the same thing he did last semester. It's the way he was throughout his entire school career from day one. husband says that he told M that he is on his own as far as how his life goes from here. We're not paying tuition, or for him to live. He can either get his life together and continue on financial aid with the little extra from the work/study program; work a crummy job and try to put himself through school so that he can eventually live a better lifestyle; or he can hope for at best working a crummy job the rest of his life and never having anything good of his own. I told husband to remind M that we would pay for therapy and medications, but that at this point we need to see that his assignments are being turned in on time. Why is it that every time he gets the smallest amount of confidence he lets everything go? He's got a decent place to live for the summer and can save up some money, he got decent grades last semester in spite of his laziness because he pulled it out in a panic at the last moment. Why think that you can just do nothing and everything will be fine? Why sabotage yourself? I think he's afraid that if he really tries he'll find out that he isn't everything that he's been telling himself that he is all of these years. So what? Try harder and get better at what it is that you want to be good at! I hate this... I don't want to be checking in on him. He's nearly 24 years old! I want him to succeed, and I know that he won't until he gets some help. This is as far as I go, though.