I think I am getting better at dealing with him and Tony is backing me up more. I am absolutely not allowing him to be a lump while he is "temporarily staying" with us and that is exactly how I put it to him. He wants to sleep in as long as he can every day and then get up and sit in a chair in the living room and watch tv all day long. He will make himself something to eat, never asking if what he is using is okay for him to eat, and then leave the dirty dishes and pans laying there for someone else to wash. Well I have put a stop to that. The other day...Thursday in fact, I told him to wash all the dishes which were only a few plastic things and some pots and pans and silverware. Tony was bringing home Chinese for dinner. He didnt do anything but was a couple of pots and pans that I could see. Maybe. Not sure. He did change the water in the sink and put all the plastic stuff back into it along with the silverware. So that never got done. One of the major pans I wanted washed was a glass 9x13 pan that had been used for baked chicken or something and been left on the counter for about a week. It was still sitting there after he so called washed all the dishes...lol. Today when I confronted him about it and he said he washed them all, I picked it up and said "Oh really?" Anyway, today I told him when Tony was not here because he took Keyana to the grocery store and it was only Buck and me here that if he was going to be here then he had to contribute to the household in some way and that was he was going to be responsible for keeping the kitchen and anywhere he goes clean. He will also do anything we ask of him without an argument. I said everyone else here contributes and so will he. We provide him a roof over his head, food in his belly, water, and electricity to keep warm and to watch tv...plus the most expensive cable and internet package around. If he doesnt want to do what we ask of him, dont let the door hit ya. Tony came home not long after that and they all put some groceries away and then Keyana wanted to go play outside for a bit. When Tony came back inside later he laughed at me and said "so you told Buck he had to work for his room and board huh?" I said yep. He told me good. You have to get on to him like a 5 year old or he will take advantage. Buck was trying to clean a frying pan where Tony had fried chicken patties last night and he went to pour the used grease into the trash can. Tony had to yell at him and tell him STOP...do not pour grease into a trash bag because that will cause the dogs to dig in it. Grease gets taken out to the edge of the woods. Gee...didnt he grow up in the country?