I have to start all over again. Once again I've been pulled into the vortex of pain that goes with a difficult child. I figure it's because we are reaching the one year anniversary of difficult child-S's running away. So, it's been a year since my In-laws, difficult child-S and my sister in law all stopped having anything to do with me. And it hurts. All because I had the audacity to demand my difficult child-S do her school work, do the dishes (I know Outrageous) and the totally unbelievable demand was that she had to continue her out-patient drug rehab program. And since husband got home at the end of May, difficult child-A has joined the group that has nothing to do with me. But, they do talk to husband occasionaly and even call my folks to talk regularly to tell them about their life. But, Me? Can't talk to me, can't answer a text from me....can't anything. I was doing so good at being detached and not letting it bother me, but this week, it all fell apart. So I'm back to square one on trying to detach from the whole thing. Do you ever get to a point where it's over? Where you no longer get pulled in and have to start over with the detaching thing? And to add to it, with as much pain as difficult child A & S have caused, I have friends ask me why do I still refer to them as my son and daughter and not as my step kids? How do you explain to someone that they are MY KIDS, not my step-kids. And it doesn't matter how much it hurts, I can't just stop loving them. But it is a lot easier when the detachment skills are working at their full potential. Thanks for letting me vent.