I don't know if I am just emotional over lots of stuff right now (my dad being sick, me leaving my job to move to VA, kids going to miss their friends, etc). Heres the deal, we wanted for husband to have his swearing in ceremony right before the start of our Weds. Evening church service. The whole thing wouldn't be more than 5 minutes. It is a very small group of elderly people that go to that service (usually 30-40 ppl). The assistant pastor is the one who had the idea to do it at that time, he said that alot of the men in that service have served in wars and this would mean alot for them to see this. Well, my pastor had been out of the country, and as soon as he got back I called his secretary to ok this. She talked with him and he said that he cannot allow it, as this might set a presidence for other people to want to do similar things. I guess like quickly do marriage vows, etc. I guess I kinda see his reasons. But it still hurts! We have been members for the past 5 years, teach kids sunday school, we go out and visit guests on Weds nite (I buy/ make goodie bags for them with- my own $$)...and I guess in my mind this wasn't a big deal. I even jumped the gun a little and had some pretty, patriotic invitations printed for just our immediate family members to attend, and so i would have something nice for my scrap book. I am on the verge of tears. I guess I just needed to vent and get feedback over this.