It's been a while since I've been in here. My oldest son is now 16 yrs. old. The only thing he's improved with- since I last was last here has been his school grades. THIS school yr. he is actually doing good in school! Report cards come out tomorrow but his progress report was good! A's & B's and 1 C in an elective class so that is great BUT he still has other "issues". It seems the last week has really been bad. First over the weekend I found out that he is fighting other boys to see who is the strongest. Now let me tell you my son is no muscle boy, in fact he is kind of whimpy acting (of course I would never verbalize that to him). So why he is doing this? It's puzzling....One of my friend's has 17 yr. & 15 yr. old sons and her sons and my son are friends. Well the 17 yr. old friend picked my son up and they went to the school football field this weekend and he videoed my son & another boy trying to bet the poop out of each other while the other boys cheered it on......and they put it on youtube. NOW this morning I get the kids up fom school and after I got home from dropping them off I was in my oldest son's room and I found under his bed mattress 3 unopened alchol wipe packets and a folded up trash bag!!!!!!! So either he was "going to try this" or maybe he's been doing this for a while? What in the world do I do now???? Obviously talk to him I know .......I guess I'm just venting! Thanks for listening!!! Will he EVER change? He is a follower and apparently wil try anything!