happymomof2
New Member
I have already ask this, but I really need some advice.
Since my son was arrested a few weeks back I am having a hard time letting him go or do anything without either me, his dad or someone I trust completely to watch him.
He wants to go to the movies at the mall tomorrow with girlfriend and her mom. I don't know the girlfriend or mom. He said she would come by and we could meet and talk before they go. This is how my warped brain thinks - okay he goes to mall with some girls one of them talks him into shoplifting (which he never has done by the way) or one of them does and he is with them so he gets arrested again and ends up in jail. My brain will just not stop going in these directions. The other day he wanted to walk to the end of my sisters street to wait for his sis to get off the bus. I was afraid (and here goes my brain again) he would start throwing rocks and one would hit a passing car - police would be called and he would go to jail.
I know he has to make his own decisions - but as a loving mother how can I just let him go? This is really starting to control and partially destroy me. We have alot of other things going on as well in our family right now so it's not the only thing thats trying to take me down but it's a big part of it.
How do you stop this way of thinking? He is basically a good kid. He has a huge heart and anyone that has ever been around him just a little bit of time knows that about him.
I don't ever want to see a policeman putting handcuffs on my son again. EVER. I think that is almost the worst sight for a mother to have to witness.
Please help me to.... what?? Trust him, trust fate, trust God. He is 14. If I continue down this path with him like I am now he will start resenting me, life and possibly get into more trouble. I know all this. What is wrong with me???
Thanks
Since my son was arrested a few weeks back I am having a hard time letting him go or do anything without either me, his dad or someone I trust completely to watch him.
He wants to go to the movies at the mall tomorrow with girlfriend and her mom. I don't know the girlfriend or mom. He said she would come by and we could meet and talk before they go. This is how my warped brain thinks - okay he goes to mall with some girls one of them talks him into shoplifting (which he never has done by the way) or one of them does and he is with them so he gets arrested again and ends up in jail. My brain will just not stop going in these directions. The other day he wanted to walk to the end of my sisters street to wait for his sis to get off the bus. I was afraid (and here goes my brain again) he would start throwing rocks and one would hit a passing car - police would be called and he would go to jail.
I know he has to make his own decisions - but as a loving mother how can I just let him go? This is really starting to control and partially destroy me. We have alot of other things going on as well in our family right now so it's not the only thing thats trying to take me down but it's a big part of it.
How do you stop this way of thinking? He is basically a good kid. He has a huge heart and anyone that has ever been around him just a little bit of time knows that about him.
I don't ever want to see a policeman putting handcuffs on my son again. EVER. I think that is almost the worst sight for a mother to have to witness.
Please help me to.... what?? Trust him, trust fate, trust God. He is 14. If I continue down this path with him like I am now he will start resenting me, life and possibly get into more trouble. I know all this. What is wrong with me???
Thanks