I have to meet with difficult child's PO this week to find out what the planned placement is upon difficult child's release. The placement will be either 1) going into the re-entry program (group home with a caseworker) long term- until he's 18yo or something else comes up- this is doubtful since it would cost more than what PO recommended and PO recommended this- 2) re-entry program short-term where PO stays involved in my life, difficult child still has case worker and we have to do whatever with the goal for re-unification- I have no idea what their idea of "short term" is, 3) difficult child comes home to live with me either with re-entry program offering services (ie, more orders, case worker, all the BS DF and some others have had to deal with that never seems to help), or without any re-entry program involvement. I know I sound pessimistic but the thing is, when difficult child is trying we don't need all the hoopla and when he's not, he can't make it until the next appointment or even the next work day when a PO checks phone messages so it really accompoishes nothing more than taking up time and being a thorn in my side because it's all about what I should change....and difficult child has said himself the problem is that he quit respecting me as his mom. I interpret that to mean he quit respecting my authority and I still to this day don't see how me sitting there taking the blame and jumping thru hoops helps this kid learn how to respect my authority. I don't want to be in a position of just not going to pick difficult child up on his release date. But it seems a little odd to me that if the re-entry program rep decided, after interviewing difficult child a couple of weeks ago, that they were approving the short-term and gradual reunification plan, shouldn't they have touched base with me? I haven't heard the first word from these people. If it's another situation where their idea of 'working together with parent' really means they'll listen to PO/courts and difficult child then order me what to do, it's not going to get very far. You know, when I talked to a couple of attnys a few mos ago, one of the things both of them said was that 'some parents just don't want to raise their kids' and ' some parents don't want to put their feet down and make a kid do anything and that's how the kids end up in this system'. Clearly, these people just don't get it and I honestly think these opinions they have are why we warrior moms go thru koi for NOTHING except to sit there and watch our kids get further and further out of control. I get that some parents really are that way but seriously, that shouldn't be the presumption leaving us parents having to prove otherwise to all these people who just took all the available funding.