This week I have refused to do anything with my daughter. She is trying to stay in contact but I have limited that. In the past we have gone shopping together but I have not done that this week. She was going to stop over but told her we were not home. Last night she had an open house at her spa and invited us, we did not go. She has invited herself for dinner this week end but I believe we will be gone. I have noticed that my aches and pains feel better, my stomach is calm and I have been sleeping better. I believe she sucks the ever living soul juice out of me like a damn vampire so she can live. There is more peace at our home, my husbands face looks better and we feel more grounded. It takes strength and energy to constantly defend and shift through her non stop line of bs and lies. I am actually starting to feel better deep down and I enjoy this new strength to not tolerate her s anymore. Of course this sounds so easy but I still cry often but at least I am not getting crap tossed on me. My daughters lies actually harm my spirit and energy field, it feels as if someone is throwing acid on me. My bipolar mother in law was awful to me yet would not leave me alone, calling me or writing to me, sending me gifts as if that would make up for her horrid behavior. When I completely detached from her she stalked me, I finally had to write in a letter that I am completely done with her abuse and there is no way I want her in my future. It was hard for me to do this but it was the RIGHT thing to do. I did not have the deep love for her like I have for my daughter but detaching from my daughter is the RIGHT thing to do. I have to say that I almost ended up in the hospital after being around my bipolar mother in law. I had spent a week with her in my house and it was so horrifying, like being in a scary movie. Her ugly behavior was directed towards me, not my husband. Since it was directed it was controlled. She felt some sort of deep satisfaction harming me, and when she tried to harm me after I buried my son that is when I ended all communication with her. My husband and his mother had a workable ok relationship. It was then when I decided to never let someone so awful in my life. Actually I did not know I could blow off a family member, I always thought I had to forgive 7 times 70 and keep working on it. I was at the Dr office with my kids one time and their Dr said I looked awful, I told him about my mother in law and he said 'I don't care who the person is YOU never have to put up with their abuse. Dr. N is who really got the ball rolling for me. I went to the library and started to study and made the changes I needed to so I could survive. Now I am in this situation with my daughter and having to dig for the right tools to keep her at bay and not ever tolerate her abuse. I admit I get so tried of the constant battle that I let somethings go, ignore the awful lies, pay for things I should not, let her take advantage of me because I am so tried of fighting a battle with her. Not anymore, I have a renewed strength, thanking God for this strength because sometimes I feel so deep down weak. Just know that you, my sisters on this site are pulling for me and circling your wagons around me gives me strength. Once my predator daughter senses this new strength she will be forced to stop sucking my life force.