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Today I really felt bad for my difficult child. Since I have allowed myself to realize that most of his behaviors are beyond his control ( and I have not yet been able to find someone to help us yet) I don't get as angry at him but more sad for him at times.
He had a double header baseball game and in the first game, he played the game of his life..hit 2 homeruns, made all his plays in the field, etc... His teammates, coaches and parents were all over him with congrats and praise.
Then the second game started. difficult child's first at bat he struck out looking and was immediately angry because he said the umpire made a bad call but we got past that.( it was a bad call by the ump but you have to deal with it regardless) At his next at bat, he hit a single and ran to 2nd base on an error. Unfortunately, the 3rd base coach waved him to come to 3rd then yelled no, go back but it was too late and difficult child was tagged out. Well, difficult child just lost it. He was so angry at the umps call (this one was questionable but again- deal with it as it is part of the game) that back in the dugout difficult child was in tears going on and on very loudly that the ump was wrong, etc.. He walked over to me carrying on and no matter what I said, I couldn't get him to drop it. Them some kids on the team started yelling to get over it and difficult child got even madder and shoved one of the other kids while yelling shut up over and over!
One of the coaches had to seperate them and difficult child came back to me yelling he quits, wants to go home, hates playing, etc.. It took a long time for me to calm his down but he finally got it together and went back to the dugout. Of course he was benched by the coach the rest of the game and I wouldn't be surprised he gets some bench time next game too. Those are the consequences and I totally agree.
difficult child was totally calm by the end of the game and shook hands with the other team and his own as if nothing happened. It was rough though. Thru the whole ordeal I felt every parent looking at me and I know the kids were laughing at difficult child.
THis is what happens when difficult child is intense about something and things don't go his way. He totally loses control even though we plan and speak about how to handle himself in cases like this even before the game starts but difficult child just can't gain that control of himself.
Are there really medications that might be able to help with this? Like I have posted before, we've been to 2 psychologist and anger management classes with no effect. I am trying to find a child psychiatrist but our local hospital that has a children's psychiatric dept. says a Dr. will do the evaluation but since they are a teaching hospital, difficult child would be followed up by residents or fellows who are still in training. I don't like the idea of that. I need someone full of experience!
Anyway, thanks for listening!
Jan
He had a double header baseball game and in the first game, he played the game of his life..hit 2 homeruns, made all his plays in the field, etc... His teammates, coaches and parents were all over him with congrats and praise.
Then the second game started. difficult child's first at bat he struck out looking and was immediately angry because he said the umpire made a bad call but we got past that.( it was a bad call by the ump but you have to deal with it regardless) At his next at bat, he hit a single and ran to 2nd base on an error. Unfortunately, the 3rd base coach waved him to come to 3rd then yelled no, go back but it was too late and difficult child was tagged out. Well, difficult child just lost it. He was so angry at the umps call (this one was questionable but again- deal with it as it is part of the game) that back in the dugout difficult child was in tears going on and on very loudly that the ump was wrong, etc.. He walked over to me carrying on and no matter what I said, I couldn't get him to drop it. Them some kids on the team started yelling to get over it and difficult child got even madder and shoved one of the other kids while yelling shut up over and over!
One of the coaches had to seperate them and difficult child came back to me yelling he quits, wants to go home, hates playing, etc.. It took a long time for me to calm his down but he finally got it together and went back to the dugout. Of course he was benched by the coach the rest of the game and I wouldn't be surprised he gets some bench time next game too. Those are the consequences and I totally agree.
difficult child was totally calm by the end of the game and shook hands with the other team and his own as if nothing happened. It was rough though. Thru the whole ordeal I felt every parent looking at me and I know the kids were laughing at difficult child.
THis is what happens when difficult child is intense about something and things don't go his way. He totally loses control even though we plan and speak about how to handle himself in cases like this even before the game starts but difficult child just can't gain that control of himself.
Are there really medications that might be able to help with this? Like I have posted before, we've been to 2 psychologist and anger management classes with no effect. I am trying to find a child psychiatrist but our local hospital that has a children's psychiatric dept. says a Dr. will do the evaluation but since they are a teaching hospital, difficult child would be followed up by residents or fellows who are still in training. I don't like the idea of that. I need someone full of experience!
Anyway, thanks for listening!
Jan